Post # 1
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Honey bee
A previous thread implied that all weddings everywhere have alcohol and it is bizarre to not have it for any reason. However I do know that many religions forbid it, whether on the church premises or not, and others may not like the taste or they may be recovering alcoholics who don’t want the temptation around. Serving only non-alcoholic beverages is not rude or strange, contrary to popular belief. Also, those who don’t drink are not bores either (some may be but that doesn’t mean every single one is and thus should not be lumped into the same group).
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
No, I have never been to a dry wedding. And unless it was a brunch wedding we prob would leave really early
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I have been to several of these. i dont drink alcohol and many in my circle dont either
the notion that here must be alcohol for ppl to have fun is bizarre to me.. but each to his own
Post # 5
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Worker bee
I haven’t been to one… yet. I’m going to one later this month. But there will be champagne for the B&G to toast only.
I understand they don’t want the added cost and restrictions that come with it, but I find it the slightest bit tacky that they get to toast. That’s the only part that bothers me about it.
But I’ll get over it. 🙂
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
nope…havent yet…although I would prefer to have alcohol…it wouldnt stop me from going…but like mishelleez said…I probably wouldnt stay till the end…unless it was a daytime wedding
Post # 7
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Helper bee
never been to one… and im not much of a dancer without alcohol… so no alcohol for me = no dance = not staying very long…
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I haven’t been to one and hopefully won’t have to go to one – While it wouldn’t keep me from going to the wedding, I’d prefer alcohol..sorry but I like me some vodka!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Maybe you should make a poll?
I have attended only one wedding without alcohol. There was only cake (which I don’t eat). I don’t even remember if there was punch. It was pretty awful and we just stared at each other. (I’m not exaggerating, although I think even if there was alcohol it wouldn’t have made the wedding fun).
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
@bells: I agree. Most of the weddings that I have gone to have been ‘dry’.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
Yup – I’ve been to a couple. One was held at night (at 7 maybe? it’s been a couple years) and they did a punch/cake reception afterward. It was lovely. I believe the couple’s religion didn’t allow for drinking or dancing, but we stuck around for a couple of hours and mingled. It was nice!
The other wedding had some strange elements (like the groom hiding before the ceremony because he wasn’t sure if he wanted to go through with it or not!!), but the lack of alcohol wasn’t a problem. It was an afternoon wedding, with sandwiches and salads and cake, and we were served sparkling cider. Again, lovely.
Honestly, I’ve only been to one wedding with a fully open bar and that was in the last year or so – the rest have either been “dry” or have had various limits on the alcohol (drink tickets, a small number of wine bottles on the tables, etc). It’s never been an issue for me – I figure people make decisions based on their budgets and beliefs, and I’m fine with that. “Wedding” doesn’t automatically equal “alcohol” in my mind.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
I’ve never been to a wedding without alcohol. Not that I wouldn’t attend one that didn’t have any, though.
Post # 13
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Newbee
I’ve never been to a totally dry wedding, but if there were other fun things to drink (coffee, teas, fancy soda etc.), I doubt that it would bother me or that I would even notice.
Post # 14
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Busy bee
For me, I’ve never been to any kind of party without alcohol. It is not that one “must drink to have fun.” It is more that among people I know it is the normal thing to provide when entertaining, along with food, water, soft drinks, plates and napkins.
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
I haven’t. But I don’t drink so I really wouldn’t care.
Post # 16
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Helper bee
I’ve never been to a wedding without an open bar, so no, never been to a dry wedding. Ironically, I can no longer drink alcohol for health reasons so it doesn’t matter to me one way or the other. But back in the day, I would definitely have missed my cocktails.