(Closed) Have you ever been asked if you want a bridal shower?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
484 posts
Helper bee

What a generous offer! Perhaps your Aunt asked because she wants to do it but wanted to check with you first to make sure you are ok with it?

I think your response was perfect. If its still on your mind I dont think there’s anything wrong with calling your aunt to discuss it further. Just explain that you don’t want her to feel obligated and would like to leave the decision in her hands. 

Also showers are awkward, I understand that. It’s totally weird to have people throw you a party to buy you things. HOWEVER let me tell you, people WANT to buy you things. Crazy, I know…but it’s tradition and the people you love want to help you start this new exciting phase in your life.  Just be gracious and make sure to get your thank you cards out in a timely manner 🙂

Post # 4
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Yeah, my aunt offered, and the shower is this Sunday!


She just asked if we were having a shower for that side (my mom’s) of the family, and I said that nothing was planned. She said, "I’d love to throw a shower, if you want."

I took it more of a gesture to celebrate the marriage and also to get my family together, so I accepted gracefully.

People won’t offer unless they want to host one. And I guarantee she doesn’t see you as greedy. 

Post # 5
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Out of curiosity what is the purpose or meaning behind a shower? I’ve only had a few other friends and family members get married and nobody had a shower, but my mom told me she wants to throw me one. What is the difference between gifts you give at the wedding shower vs. the actual wedding. I know that lingerie is typically given as a gift at the bachelorette party, and gifts given to the couple at their wedding are typically home related gifts, but what about a shower? What is the  meaning of wedding showers?

Post # 6
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

 If your concerned about this gifts , why not just say that , maybe if they REALLY want to get you something they can make a donation to your church , or something. I had a lot more fun at my shower then I was expecting. It was really a great chance for some of my family( new and old) and friends to meet before the wedding.

Post # 7
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

No one offered – our family tradition is to have one shower and to invite all family and female friends.  They are fun!

Post # 8
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Annie, I think the tradition of the shower is the replacement of the dowry.  Back in the day, the bride used to bring a dowry of stuff (a trunk of things) with her to her new home.  Now that we aren’t exactly given away in the same sense, it has translated into a shower where women bond and shower you with gifts for you to take to your husband.  The gifts at the shower are generally from your registry but are generally more female related, ie lots of cooking stuff!

Latte, I think she was likely testing the waters, do you have time? is it something you want to do etc?  A lot of time and effort can go into planning these things if they are so inclined.  I would just be honest with her about how you are feeling, and don’t worry they will want to bring you gifts, people will spend what they can afford!

Good Luck!

Post # 10
3331 posts
Sugar bee

LatteLove, I’m glad your aunt is excited about throwing your shower! 

No one asked me if I wanted a shower.  I was more than happy to find that my sister and Bridesmaid or Best Man were throwing me a shower.  However, my Future Mother-In-Law decided that she was throwing me a shower, and it has become a total fiasco.  I wish there was a way to say "thanks but no thanks" but I don’t know how…

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