Did they confess Or did you find out through other means?
I found out from how he acted around his phone. He put a lock on it. He always stepped out to answer calls except for the one time he said “I love you, babe” while my bedroom laying on my bed while I was on a couch in my living room lol. He said it was his mama. Ha ha.
He became more concerned with his figure so he started going to gym all the time, wearing different cologne, etc. Our sex changed one day. Like 180°. It was the most sickening feeling bc I knew he wasn’t emotionally or physically with me anymore. He started bringing home little gifts that he “found”.
Why did you decide to forgive?
I was young, in love, and very naive. He was a master manipulator and abusive. He blamed everything on me. I thought if It was my fault then I would try harder the second time to make him stay.
was it early on in the relationship or after years of being together?
We were together for ten and he had a full blown relationship with someone else 7-8 years in. But he had cheated in the past I just didn’t really want to believe it.
Did you find out right away or a significant amount of time after it happened?
I knew when it happened. Or maybe when he got more comfortable and stopped being so sly.
did you ever think about cheating on them after forgiving them?
No. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
how long did the relationship last after forgiving them?
Two years. He kept cheating. He kept blaming it on me- that I didn’t love him enough. I would stay up and Google how to love someone. I couldn’t be physically with him anymore. Everytime he wanted sex I was so repulsed. I knew the person he had been with. And all I saw was the two of them together. If he did this or that with her. It made me so sick. I couldn’t sleep or eat. My hair was falling out. I was tired of all the lies. He would lie to me and I would lie to everyone else and myself that we were happy. We had so many other problems. This was just one of them.
I could never forgive him but he didn’t deserve to be forgiven anyway. He’s married now and I pray that he has grown up and is monogamous with her. She has kids and it would be much more traumatic for her to go through it with them.
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