- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I posted a while ago about a shower I was helping to plan for one of my oldest and dearest friends, D. I am (was? you see where this is going) her Maid/Matron of Honor and I wanted it to be a great event for her. I was worried about the timing because a date for the wedding had not been set yet.
I’m glad to say a date was set soon after, we did have the shower and it was wonderful! A big investment of time and money but sooo worth it. I was so happy to do it for her! I had help from two other bridesmaids, J and N, plus her FSILS. It was a lot of fun to plan. Afterward, D sent me a very personal and effusive thank you note, 2 pages long.
Three weeks after the shower, D and I were supposed to visit bridesmaid J at her home out of state. J is moving to Asia and she was having a going away party! D does not drive and we routinely visit J together, using my car. We both RSVP’d yes to the invitation.
D also doesn’t have a working cell phone. So on the morning of, I sent her a message on facebook telling her I would pick her up at 1. The hours ticked by and no response.
So I drove to the house where D is staying. No one was home, just the dog barking his head off at me.
So I drove to the party by myself. J was so sad that D didn’t come. I had my sister and my husband watching my email and I kept checking my phone to see if there was any word about D. None came.
When I got home, I still hadn’t heard from D. I sent her an email and another private message asking if something was wrong. Not a word. I wrote a friendly note on her wall. Others tried reaching out to her, too. Nothing. But I noticed she has been active on facebook and Pinterest and was responding to some people’s comments. So she wasn’t dead after all.
It has slowly dawned on me that she is ignoring me and the other girls. Literally there is no clear reason why she is doing this. I have spent the last week trying to figure this out. Did I offend her in some way? 3 weeks after we spent hundreds of dollars and hours of time on her shower, 2 weeks after a wonderful heartfelt thank you note, she just drops me??? Us??
My husband thinks I should stop by the house again and ask if she is at home, to confront her face-to-face and find out what is going on. I’m too chicken and honestly if she is just going to reject me I would prefer to spare myself the awkwardness and humiliation. And if she’s not dropping me why doesn’t she TALK to me?
We’ve been friends since 8th grade… how could this be happening? At this point I have to assume I’m not invited to the wedding, period, right? I’m so upset, confused, hurt. I don’t deserve to be treated this way. Who does that?