Post # 32
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Once. It was FREEZING, it started raining, and the ceremony was outdoors–there was no rain (or apparently even “cold”) plan. So like a lot of PP, the thing that made it “bad” was weather-related. Otherwise, some are just more fun or less fun. 🙂
Post # 33
Not really. I am able to find fun in just about anything 😉 Usually alcohol, LOL.
Last year DH and I went to a wedding of a mutual friend. The ceremony was great, but we all got to the reception and waited THREE hours to eat, because her mom wouldn’t let anyone eat until the bride and groom were there. Grouchy people. And they ran out of alcohol really fast.
So when we finally get to eat, it is just finger foods. I am FINE with apps, but this was right over the dinner hour, and I was starving. Then I got a call that my grandmother had a heart attack, so maybe that spoiled the night!
Post # 34
I’ve had bad food, seen bad entertainment, FROZE at one reception (outdoors in the fall on a lake and the couple didn’t warn that the reception was outdoors too) and stuff along those lines but even at that I’ve never had a bad time at a wedding.
Post # 35
Haha – ok. We’ll try to make sure our guests are neither too hot NOR too cold 🙂
And it sounds like having enough food/ alcohol (assuming you’re serving alcohol) is also important.
Post # 36
We didn’t have fun at FI’s cousin’s wedding, primarily because we didn’t like their super religious ceremony and then the reception was a dessert reception (mediocre desserts, nothing amazing) with no alcohol and no music or dancing. There was nothing to do. We walked around, talked to a couple of people and then left early.
Post # 37
I’ve been to 32 weddings in the last five years and thankfully they’ve all been really good and I’ve had a blast….. The only thing is I was in at least 28 of those 32. But still had a blast. One of them was in the middle of august and outside in the blazing heat, but I’d just shaved my head so the heat wasn’t so bad.
Post # 38
I think what is bad to some may be suitable to others so I hope no one gets their feelings hurt!
I went to a wedding years ago in which the groom’s father was a pastor and rambled on and on about how there would be no “devil’s drink” (alcohol) at the reception. A cousin had horseshoes at her wedding and the DJ mailed “Mambo #5” at least 7 times. Another wedding I went to had absolutely no structure and the guests had to wait an hour and half before the ceremony. The worst part, no one announced when the ceremony was beginning so all of the sudden, wham! There’s the couple getting married and you had to scramble to get to the designated ceremony area.
Post # 39
Two weddings stick out in my mind. They were both in the middle of the day. The dancefloor was empty 90% of the time. I felt obligated to dance because it was so sad that the dancefloor was empty. And than lots of guests left immediatly following the meal. Daytime weddings. Not sure if they can cut it.
Post # 40
@baletrina: daytime weddings can cut it–ahem. You just have to have different expectations. If you want to have a raging dance party, then probably not. But if your expectation is to throw a party where your friend and family can share your love *and* also have a good time (usually involving good food and possibly alcohol) then a daytime wedding most certainly can cut it.
Post # 41
Not bad, but the only one I can remember being less than fun was one that was held in a Baptist church, with the reception in the church fellowship hall. Fluorescent lighting, NO music or dancing because Baptists are pretty strict with that, no tables, just chairs lined up around the edge of the room, and it was an evening wedding, so we had hors d’oeuvres for dinner on our laps. I mean, the food was GOOD, but I wasn’t crazy about having to eat it on my lap, and there being no music. It wasn’t bad, just… uninteresting. Kind of boring. I was not upset when it was over. (Oh and I had to stick around until the very end because my boyfriend at the time was a groomsman, and I kind of got roped into helping with clean up which was sort of a drag.)
Post # 42
@ohheavenlyday: No dancing? They must have been very conservative/fundamentalist Baptists. I grew up Baptist and we always tore up the dance floor at family weddings (and knocked back a couple of drinks). 🙂
I think the only BAD wedding I went to was due to the bride and groom taking several hours for pictures after the ceremony, and leaving us guests with nothing else to do besides sit and stare at one another.. and chow down on wedding mints…
Post # 43
@summerbride12: Guests were allowed AFTER dinner and weren’t allowed in when dinner took too long? WOW! That’s really bad!!
I’ve definitely been to a bad wedding. It was a wedding for one of my sorority sisters who married a frat guy right out of college. Our entire sorority and his entire frat were invited, and I was a few years older then them. It was basically a drunken mess. The DJ was horrible, as was the food…and there were drunk frat guys playing beer pong at the reception. Just waaay too young for where I was in my life and I was totally over that. My husband (then FI) and I left shortly after dinner.
Then, oddly enough, the bride went outside with her husband to get a breather, and saw a stray kitten. She coaxed it over, and then was bitten by the kitten, so she had to go to the ER for a rabies shot the night of her wedding. It just summed up the whole evening as a disaster.
Post # 44
I really havent ever been to a bad wedding.. I think as long as people are on the dancefloor Its fun.
Post # 45
i was invited to a wedding 2 weekends ago – she is a good friend of my sisters and had been dating the guy for 3 months when they got engaged – her family felt she really rushed into it – but who am i to judge…i like both of them…anyway her family was far from supportive so she decided to just do a private ceremony with her, her husband, the officiant and the photographer. (the pics turned out great!) we all were invited to a backyard reception at her house with some good old fashioned southern bbq – def not your typical wedding. well her family gave in and ended up showing up – and the two families couldnt be more different, her father is retired military and her husband parents had harley t-shirts on.
Well we got hit really really bad with hail that night, we all took cover inside her house while we waited for them to show. when the finally pull up he stumbles out of the car. i swear i have never seen someone so f’ed up in my life…she said he took a xanex to calm his nerves, but if by xanex she means 5 or 6 of them then maybe..he was completely out of it. It was the MOST awkward situation i had ever been in – not for me – but to watch, her family already has hesitations about him so i can only imagine what ensued after the wedding. we only stayed for about 2 hours then left. but man…that was a strange strange wedding.
Post # 46
I wouldn’t say I’ve ever been to a “bad” wedding, but I went to one for a family member that wasn’t great. The bride and groom (2nd marriages, both quite successful people) were really into displaying their wealth the whole engagement–he hired a photographer and a blimp to fly over the football stadium at their alma mater when he proposed, the rock on her finger is worth as much as my house, they went on a 2-month long European honeymoon–but the wedding was kinda cheap and not great. The bride showed up almost 2 hours late b/c she was working out (nobody even knew where she was), the food was just these little, bland, ham and chicken salad sandwiches, and it was pouring out so the ceiling of the reception hall was leaking the whole time. It was still fun, but it just seemed like they cared a lot more about spending money/time on themselves than making their guests feel comfortable.