Post # 1
I am worried that my wedding will be boring. There will be no alcohol at the reception because Fiance doesn’t want to and due to religion reasons. Fiance and I are both Christians but we ocassonally drink. Fiance wants the background music to be all Christians songs. Not like hard out hillsong praise and worship songs but just like Switchfoot, Tori Kelly etc. Half of our guests are Christians. I am worried that most of our guests won’t know the songs and I feel like there will be no guests dancing and they might feel bored.
Have you been to a boring wedding?
Post # 2
All but one wedding I have been to have been boring. I honestly send my regrets for all weddings at this point now that all my VIPs are married or decided against it. I have to admit, only since you posted about it, this does sound like a boring wedding and I really wouldn’t expect a lot of dancing. A lot of people only get moving after a drink or two and I wouldn’t even know how to begin to dance to Switchfoot or Tori Kelly. Maybe just that stand in place bob up and down thing?
Regardless, if this is your style and will make you enjoy your day, do your thing, girl. But I wouldn’t go in with these grand expectations of having a big shebang that is talked about forever.
Post # 3
xofuturemrsxo : I’m sorry, but for me personally, I would think your wedding may be boring 🙁 if it’s on a Friday or Saturday night. I went to a wedding with no alcohol or poppin’ music on a Monday evening & everyone had to work the next day so no one minded. If the wedding was a “day time” wedding I also think no one would mind.
With that being said, I had many things go wrong on my wedding day. You have to just make the most of it. no way you can provide a cash bar for guests who would like to pay out of pocket for alcoholic drinks? Even though your religion is against it for the two of you? That’s what I’d do. Maybe throw a couple of “dancing songs” in the mix that ppl feel they can get up and dance to? I think dancing makes things more exciting, alcohol involved or not. Not every dancing song is raunchy
Post # 4
Yep, and they were all Mormon weddings.
Post # 5
Maybe, but I would be respectful of my friends desire to have a wedding they want as it’s not about me.
Post # 6
xofuturemrsxo : I’m going a bit off your question but I have been to 2 weddings which I enjoyed the least. The first is my cousins. It was actually kinda fun but I had a pounding headache for the most part in the reception and it did not help that our table was the closest to the DJ’s. So needless to say, I spent a good chunk of my time sitting outside on a bench by myself to get some quiet time. So totally not the bride or groom’s fault.
The second, was a wedding of SO’s friend. Not sure if anyone is familiar with Russian weddings but they last the whole day as in lunch and dinner and party afterwards. Between the lunch and dinner, I gotta admit, there were a couple of hours of down times when people had nothing to do and just stared around. This wedding also had the most alcohol served EVER. The bride was not happy either when the DJ was MIA and he was found hanging out at the bar!
Post # 7
The weddings I’ve found boring are the ones where I didn’t know anyone, either because I was there on my own or because my date was a member of the bridal party. I’ve also sat through some long religious ceremonies that, to be honest, I found pretty boring. I’m not a dancing sort of person, so your music wouldn’t bother me as long as it didn’t have massively religious themes – but your crowd probably are not hardcore atheists like me. However, people might whinge about the lack of alcohol (not that it’s a reason to compromise if you have strong beliefs against it).
Post # 8
What’s the food menu? What day and time is your wedding?
Post # 9
xofuturemrsxo : For me it’s boring when I’m there alone – I’m not very outgoing and I don’t dance much – I almost always hate reception music and if I don’t like it, I’m not dancing to it. I don’t drink at weddings anyway, I’m not interested, so that wouldn’t matter to me at all. Also I like switchfoot so I’d probably be happy with your music selections even though I’m not religious. It’s not danceable though, and that was my mistake – I picked music I like but most wasn’t something anyone would dance to. Focus on good food, good conversation and people will enjoy themselves anyway. I will continue to find it very sad that people without alcohol can’t have a good time at weddings (yes, I am judging, ladies).
Making it an afternoon wedding can help give a different vibe/expecations, incidentally, and might be a good idea in this case.
Post # 10
I’ve recently been to a wedding where we couldn’t hear or see what was happening during the reception because we were too far and there were big columns in the venue which were blocking our view. Add to that, we couldn’t hear anything because the sound system can’t reach our seats. So I felt we were not part of the festivities thus, got a bit bored. Good thing we were seated amongst friends so we just kind of mingled with them as if nothing’s happening.
As to the wedding you’re contemplating, I think the other bees’ suggestions are right to do it during the day so there will be less of a party atmosphere to be expected?
Post # 11
Would I be respectful and pretend to have a good time? Sure.
Would I tell the bride or groom I didn’t have fun? Never.
Unless I knew a lot of people or had my BFF there to chat with, I’m probably cutting out immediately after dinner. I wouldn’t necessarily say I had a bad time, but I certainly wouldn’t characterize it as fun. Probably nice, the way a catered business meeting is nice. Perfectly ok, but I’m not going to be talking about it after or looking To to recreate the experience any time soon.
The food better be pretty on point though.
Post # 12
I’ve been to a crazy amount of weddings and only 1 was boring and we left early at 11. They played nothing but Greek music for so long and it was so boring. No one but like 7 people were dancing so the DJ should have switched over.
Post # 13
I’ve been to weddings that were boring because there were no wedding planners, etc to keep things flowing and we were just sitting there wondering what was next. I went to a christian wedding this past August. The ceremony was in the church chapel. The reception was in one of the churches halls which was decorated nicely. There was music they played country music and R&B music. Do you think this would be something that you guys can look into? The couple were christians but yet they provided music for dinner and dancing. There sons played did’t have any profanity or anything in it.
Post # 14
Is there any orer music you can mix in? How about some classic disco or 80’s or rock songs that everyone knows? If it’s not something you guys want, that’s totally fine but I think your other guests would appreciate it. Are there any games that you can do to help fill time and let people let loose?
If I don’t know a lot of people at the wedding, I tend to think it’s boring. The only other truly boring wedding I have been to is my Future Sister-In-Law. She had a dry wedding and played Disney musical music the almost the whole time, there was very little party dancing, the couple made their exit by 8:30, and there was just nothing to do. Would I ever tell her she had a boring wedding? Absolutely not.
Post # 15
I’ve been to several weddings that I would describe as boring. I didn’t have a miserable time, but there was no music played other than for the traditional dances and no alcohol. I still enjoyed mingling and talking to people, but it was definitely a reception that was over after the cake was cut.