- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
The Best Man kept referring to the bride as ‘Gemma’. The brides name was Hailey and Gemma is the grooms ex, who was in attendance at the wedding. Awkward all around.
arabbel: thank you for sharing. i have been up nights stressing about my brothers speech. i know he loves us but similar to your sister, he mentioned little kid habits like picking my nose. didnt exactly make me feel glamorous on an otherwise beautiful day. i cant seem to get it out of my mind that its all anyone remembers, that our wedding is seen as a joke, and that we missed an opportunity for someone else to make a beautiful speech. any idea how your bride sister recovered? any advice or persepctive would be SO helpful. thank you!
lettyf: Oh, haha, well those two sisters have always had a bit of a rival, lovehate relationship, but I think they’re doing decently well now, and I don’t think the bride sister thinks or worries about that speech at all. And I don’t think anyone who isn’t family even remembers it!
Everyone who was at that sister’s wedding remembers and compliments the wedding itself, nothing is ever said about the speech. And when I think back on the day, the speech is far from the first thing that comes to mind.
So basically, I wouldn’t worry. Even if people felt the speech was awkward, I very much doubt anyone thinks it marred or had any effect on your wedding, aside from maybe the speech itself.
Heck yes, I’m a wedding photographer so I hear some pretty amazing speeches and some downright terrible ones! The worst honestly are the ones that just drag out, or are full of little inside jokes that no one else gets. No one wants to sit and hear your whole history of how you met your BFF and all the things you’ve done together. Get up, say something sweet, or be a little funny – and sit the heck down!
The Bridesmaid or Best Man at our wedding knocked it out of the park. He gave the most hilarious speech about my Darling Husband that everyone “got” and really just overall did a great job. People still talk about his speech. My Maid/Matron of Honor on the other hand? Terrible. She had a whole speech written out, but can be a bit wild so she was totally smashed by that point and just got up and went off the cuff. It wasn’t super aweful, but I honestly can’t even remember what she said.
yuppp my husband’s cousin got married and his other cousin (the groom’s brother) got SHITFACED and proceeded to ramble for 30 minutes where he thanked his friends and business partner for coming, talked about a time that the groom’s friend helped him when his moving truck broke down in the rain when they were moving to another apartment, talked about his other failed business ventures and NEVER once mentioned the bride or groom. After he rambled forever about his friends and businesses, he was then told to wrap it up by another brother and he toasted to “weddings and athletics and stuff”.
Yes. I’ve been to a wedding where the very drunk best man told some extremely inappropriate stories. There were children and grandparents present. Not cool.
I have also been to one where the father of the bride talked for what seemed like forever about how wonderful his daughter was. I don’t think he even mentioned the groom in his speech.
Oh god, yes. DH’s grandfather (who isn’t very close to the family and has been rude to me on occasions) gave a drunken speech at our reception. He started out complaining about how the white people were dirtying his “ancient blood line” (I’m white, Darling Husband is *part* “ancient blood line”) and then proceeded to swear loudly about god knows what. Then, he insulted our family friends who happen to be lesbians about how “immoral” and “disgusting” it was.
It was terrible. Everyone was completely stunned. I just remember sitting there and being so embarrassed and unable to look around at our guests/family. Darling Husband got so angry; he manhandled/escorted his grandpa out of the reception and left him on a bench outside, drunk as a skunk. My younger sisters and young cousins happened to be out of the room during the fiasco, so that was a small relief.
Thankfully, everyone understood and didn’t expect us to apologize for anything. His grandfather got on a plane in the morning, never called to apologize, and sent us a letter saying he wasn’t going to send us our gift (like we really wanted something from an a**hole anyway). Darling Husband hasn’t talked to his grandfather since (4 years now).
Yikes, I think people should be given breathalizers before getting access to a mic! Of course that won’t weed out the ones that are capable of being jackasses stone cold sober, but it’s a start….
My own. My Maid/Matron of Honor had gone out to her car (she spent the night with me, and her Darling Husband drove it to the wedding) and she found a fake eyelash in the floorboard and had this MASSIVE fight with her husband in the back room thinking he cheated on her the night before. Everyone knew about it, too. So the speeches happened right after this, and she was squabbling the whole time trying to keep her composure. I felt awful for her but it was painful to watch. I didn’t even care if she did a toast but she was already up there before I could tell her not to worry about it!
Oh yes – a couple of years ago I went to a wedding where the groom’s father talked about singing a prayer with his son every night before bed when they were little (awww!) and then decided to make a singing prayer his blessing for the couple (awww!). Unfortunately it was a sad, slow, unfamiliar lullaby with several verses; to add insult to injury he was crying throughout (enough sobs to interupt the song) and the prayer song had several verses – took about 1.5 minutes to get through (but felt like 5 minutes). awkward…
one of the grooms (it was a gay wedding) insisted that his nephew’s speech had to be 5 min long. I don’t know if he was serious, but the nephew took is literally. I helped them a lot at the wedding and was in the ‘getting ready’ room going over the speech with the nephew. It was teh day of and it was just helpnig him calm his nerves.. but even as he was practiciting i was like WTH IS THIS?? in my head while just smiling on the outside.
Needless to say, the entire audtience was like ?????? as his nephew went on and on telling random stories to fill up the time. He was terrible at transitioning so they really did seem like a collection of stories.
This is an old thread but it looks like its been revived..
Dh’s sister was a bridesmaid & knew the other sister who was Maid/Matron of Honor didnt want to do a speech so she took the mic from her & talked about how i was friends with her first & how she hated me so much when Darling Husband & I first got together & how she was so confused but now shes okay with it.. she also grabbed her boobs a lot (she was wasted & in a strapless dress.) A guest described it as when you see a trainwreck happening in slow motion… 😉 soo awkward hahah.
Many years ago, I was the Maid/Matron of Honor. I had never been to a wedding where the Maid/Matron of Honor gave a speech. It had never been discussed that I would be giving a speech. I am very shy, terrible with words, and was 100% caught off guard. I don’t think I said much more than Congratulations, please get the mic out of my face. I also highly disliked the groom. I think it was pretty humuliating for all.
Most people simply aren’t trained in public speaking. Most get nervous, drink to ease their nerves…. recipe for disaster. I rarely went to a wedding where all speeches were good.
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