(Closed) Have you ever been to a wedding where a bad toast/speech was given?

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Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor at my best friend’s wedding and I went first. My speech was pretty well prepared, I think. It was short, to the point, some laughs, some sentimental stuff and I cheered the bride and groom, made the toast and was done. Everyone afterwards said that I did a good job.

However, I think the only reason they told me I did a good job was because the best man’s speech was terrible. He just got up there and rambled a little bit, told a funny story and at the end said ‘so there you go.’ and handed the mike back to the dj. He didn’t toast them or bring it together or anything. the bride was really disappointed and said she wished I had gone second so it looked a little better. It wasn’t terrible…it just wasn’t very good lol

Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

personally, i always find the worst speeches to be the ones where the person just reads from printed pages. like, that’s not a speech! that’s a book report. i was recently at a wedding where the speech giver, was like squinting at the page trying to figure out what she typed, re-starting sentences… it was painful to watch and at the end, i have no idea what she said. 

however, public speaking doesn’t freak me out so maybe i am being harsh. I have just always found the speeches that were not read came across the best. an index card with a few bullets is one thing. but the best speeches i heard came from people who had clear ideas of what they wanted to say and spoke like they were speaking to friends. 

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yea mine.. ๐Ÿ™ my Father-In-Law speech was pretty bad. He talked the whole time about how much of a failure my husband was. He sucked all at sports. He thought he was finally going to make a check in hockey and he skated right past the guy and headed to a billboard sign to correct some miss spelled word. Then he went on to say how little he knows about me..so he has nothing to say about me. Even though I used to go over to their house every sunday when we were dating for over a year and a half. And I went away with them many many times to their cabin over (15)

Post # 64
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Just recently! The BM’s speech was FANTASTIC – poor Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t stand a chance. But even on it’s own…her speech was not great ๐Ÿ™ She made too many inside jokes and one too many  “You better treat her right, or else…” – it just was super awkward.

Though I didn’t judge, since my own Maid/Matron of Honor speech at my best friend’s wedding a couple years ago was less than steller – probably 25 seconds long, and I ended it with a poem from a movie the bride and I loved, but had nothing to do with weddings lol. I was a nervous wreck (I have serious public speaking phobia!) and was SO glad when it was over. But the Bride cried happy tears and said it was perfect…so I guess that’s all that matters ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 65
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

This past summer I went to a wedding with my fiance, it was one of his close friends. Things went wrong when the DJ opened the mic up to anyone that wanted to say something about the bride and the groom! The groomsmen and bridesmaids were a bit shy and didn’t have much to say, but the few that did speak kept reiterating how they “didn’t know the groom had it in him” to get married! The newlyweds also already had children together and their cousins kept saying, “Don’t have anymore kids!”. I didn’t know either parties nor their families well, but I couldn’t help but find their comments to be negative and not very funny, especially on their special day ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 66
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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Reeniero:  I havne’t witnessed anything really cringy, but the at my sister’s SIL’s wedding the speach from her bridesmaids was a total disaster.  Let’s call her J.

First thing to know is that J is a pretty proud and proper woman.  She’s a lawyer, very family oriented, and makes an effort to present herself in a certain light.  Well, her bridesmaids got up there and revealed to 200 of her family, friends, and colleuges that she and the groom started off as a one-night stand picked up from a night club!  J would never EVER have revealed something like that.  I mean who needs enemies whe you’ve got friends like that?

On top of that, they insulted/made fun of her parents at some point in the speach, which totally did not fly either.  

Later on when J got up to make her speach she made some comment along the lines of, “I didn’t know my wedding day would also be the most horifying day of my life” and the bridesmaids responsible ran out of the reception hall crying.  

What a debacle.  As far as I know it was friendship ending.  J does not move in the kind of circles where she needs to have people around her who are so tone deaf.

That said, the vast majority of speaches I’ve witnessed have been excellent.  I had a bit of a weird thing at my wedding where there were 3 (!!!) unplanned speaches, so that kind of dragged on, but what are you going to do.  For some reason every member of my DH’s immediate family somehow thought they were supposed to give a speach, even when we’d communicated with them in advance and it was confirmed that only his father would speak.  But whatever!  I kind of like speaches anyway.

Post # 67
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Helper bee

I went to a friend’s wedding where the brother of the bride made a toast to her. Worst speech ever!  It was so painful to listen to that I want to leave and go to the bathroom!  He was not only a bad speaker, but he also seemed to trash her in his speech.  Everyone was gasping and someone even yelled, “Boo!”  He just kept going.  Major loser!  The groom was so mad.  We were all cringing in our seats. It would have been laughable if it wasn’t so horrible.  

Post # 68
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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allthingsblue:  (p.4 of this thread) That’s just about a worst case scenario. Super awkward.

Post # 69
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My wedding was this past Saturday and my husband’s brother gave the worst speech I have ever heard. My sister who was Maid/Matron of Honor went first and did an amazing job and then the first best man (husband’s best friend) did a fantastic job with his speech. When it was my BIL’s turn (the other best man), he said that when my husband first started dating me he wasn’t really that into me, that he himself (best man) didn’t really like me all the much, and disclosed a time that he walked in on us having sex–in front of my parents, grandfather, and basically everyone I know. It was really embarrassing and awkward. Everyone was appalled by it. 

Post # 71
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Helper bee

The main one that sticks in my mind was father of bride, super nervous, thanking all the people that had come along and acknowledging the ones that couldn’t be there: “unfortunately [relatives] can’t be here tonight…well, they’re dead…”
SO UNCOMFORTABLE.  He wasn’t even trying to be funny, I don’t think he even realised what he said.

Another one that I recall was my friend’s Bridesmaid or Best Man (a long time friend of hers). She spent the speech being way over the top and then telling the groom how lucky he was to be with the bride, how fantastic she is etc etc.  Properly making the poor guy feel inadequate when he already has confidence issues.  Made me so mad!

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Post # 72
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was at a wedding where the best mans speech was 45 minutes long. Before he started he said it would be a bit shorter than the speech he gave at his other brothers wedding, which apparently topped an hour. People seriously groaned when he got up to speak. It was dreadful to sit through and the worst part was that it was not the only speech. There was a second best man, an Maid/Matron of Honor, FOG and the groom spoke. All together it was almost an hour and a half of speeches…. Before dinner and without the bar open. The FOG ended up extending the wedding and bar at the end of the night since they wasted so much time on speeches. Wedding was supposed to end at ten and it went until midnight instead. 

Post # 73
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah. Mine. The best man got in a fight with his girlfriend that day, and felt his speech was the appropriate time to apologize,  since apparently we live in a romcom. His whole speech was basically “these two love each other, but me and my Girlfriend REALLY do..” etc. To top it off, they broke up not too long after.  Shocker.

Post # 74
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

A few. The worst was one where the maid of honor stood up and started sobbing about how she was a bad friend because she hadn’t written a speech and didn’t have anything to say. 

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

A few as well. At one the bride who had a heart condition  the doctor who saved her life give a speech. It was a rambling speech I think meant to be funny that roasted her for not following his after are instructions and seemed like a commercial for his services. At another the bride’s mentor confessed how she’d tried to fire the bride, but the bride’s hysterical crying convinced her to reverse her decision.

At the last wedding we went to, two speeches were awful. The bride’s name and the BM’s name were very similar. The officiant who appeared to be a close friend of the families mistakenly pronounced groom and Bridesmaid or Best Man married at the ceremony. So in the FOB’s speech he overemphasized the bride’s and made sure everyone knew how disappointed he was in the officiant (even though the rest of the ceremony was beautiful and everyone had laughed the name thing off). Then one of the groomen said how much the family liked bride, how much better she was for him than his ex then named the ex and went into a weird diatribe of the day he dumped her.

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