Post # 1
I have, and I have never felt such relief. Long story short, she was selfish and self-centered and didn’t even bother talking to me unless it was to complain about her life (but the type of complaining that she doesn’t actually want advice or help, just to complain about shit she could easily fix). If I went to her with a problem I got a one word answer before she switched the topic back to her.
It was exhausting, pointlesjusly dramatic and I was just finally done.
Post # 3
Ugh I have a friend like that who drives me crazy. I have a hard time ‘breaking up’ with friends but moving away really helped!
Post # 4
@Gingersnap I have, but it was because she spread untrue rumors about me. I got rid of her over 3 years ago and have never looked back. Feels great, doesn’t it?
Post # 5
Unfortunately, I had to part ways with a girl I thought was my very best friend about three years ago when I was in college. She was spreading rumors and wouldn’t speak to me because I wouldn’t be friends with some crazy, bipolar chick she decided to become friends with. Since when do you need to be best friends with everyone your friends want to hang out with? So middle school, and as many good memories as we had, I know my life is better off without her.
Post # 6
Is it bad of me to have ended a friendship because she told me she cheated on her husband (among other things)? It put me in a very uncomfortable place!
Post # 7
No, I don’t think so if it put you in an awkward or uncomfortable position and she wasn’t willing to fix it.
I believe in giving people second chances, but if someone has ultimatums for you and is unwilling to meet you half-way or work with you, it’s not worth it. You have to be true to yourself.
Post # 8
I feel like I’m in a similar situation right this very moment. I’m glad you mentioned feeling relief. That totally eases my mind. So thanks! :o]
Post # 9
I have let friendships that were not healthy fade off. I just pulled away and eventually all contact stopped. I never had a ‘this friendship is over!’ discussion/fight…but I definately have felt great relief before when a friendship has faded off or stopped.
Post # 10
Friends are for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. You had this friend for a season. You will not have all friends for a lifetime. This is very normal.
Post # 11
Yep, been in that same situation. I just started seriously dating my Fiance and this “friend” and I went out for some drinks. She was always the doom and gloom type — complain, complain, complain about her life, never happy for anyone else. But it’d been so long since I’d dated someone I thought she’d be happy for me.
After a few drinks I told her, “I really really love bf! I’m SOOO happy!” all warm and fuzzy….what did she say? “Well wooopdie-doo! I haven’t had a F’ing boyfriend for 2 years! I am probably never going to find someone…” and went on this whole sob story. This came after I’d already given her the benefit of the doubt on a ton of other incidents (she was my hair dresser and I found out she totally ripped me off and charged me like $40 for something that only costs $12, etc)…so I decided to let her go.
I finally told her htat if she is the type of person who can’t be happy for anyone around her and has to be a “fun sponge” all the time then I don’t want to be around her. She was pissed and we haven’t talked since…but I never missed her so She wasn’t a great friend anyway.
Post # 12
I have, but in a passive aggressive way. I reconnected with a childhood friend as an adult and over a two year period went to several of her Bday, housewarming, etc. parties and had her over for dinner several times. I didn’t realize how one-sided the friendship was though until I got engaged and emailed her the good news and her response was “Oh yeah, my Mom told me already. Congrats.” (our parents are still friends). Granted, she had just been dumped by her BF of 6 years who refused to propose, but I honestly don’t thin kthat’s an excuse for such a horribly rude response. I stopped talking to her then and there and didnt’ invite her to my wedding. I just don’t have room for people like that in my life and refuse to be treated that way by anyone.
Post # 13
I have and it felt amazing. Very similar situation too, do we have the same ex-friend? Her favorite topic was her and her life and her troubles with her boyfriend. The last straw was when she freaked out on me because I wouldn’t give her boyfriend (whom she was cheating on and in the process of breaking up with) a job recommendation. You’ve got better things to do than hang around her crazy train. Good for you!
Post # 14
I did as well and I’m very happy that I did. I broke up with who I thought was a dear friend after she deeply insulted my now DH. She was selfish, self-centered (she told me she just didn’t like it when her friends have boyfriends), she was unsupportive and just plain old mean. I loved her and we had some wonderful memories, but I don’t miss her and I learned a lot about myself and my amazing husband.
Post # 14
I did, but I feel horrible about it, still.
She had a number of mental health and substance abuse issues, and the chaos and uncertainty were too much to handle.
Post # 15
Oh yes, and it’s definitely a relief. I’m currently watching several of my friends dump the same person due to their completely inapporpriate behavior and horrible friend style, and it’s hard watching them drag it out day after day after day. My best friend thinks its best to just let it be, it’ll fizzle out. The person keeps coming back for more pretending nothing’s wrong, and no one has the balls to tell them to take a hike. It’s painful to watch to be honest. And frustrating to deal with as a friend on the outside.