(Closed) Have you ever changed your name or wish you could?

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

Yup I know what you mean. 

I don’t dislike my name but don’t really feel it’s ‘me’. I have a couple of nicknames and they get used a lot.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

My middle name is Marie, just like nearly every other woman I know (it feels like it!) so I’ll be getting rid of it when I’m married and making my maiden name my new middle name. I know my parents won’t be happy about it; I’ve been on their case about my middle name for most of my life and they always say “Oh, but it’s the name we gave you!” I definitely think I’ll be happier– having a full name that I actually like is going to be nice.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I feel the same way! My name was in the top 3 the year I was born, and I get so tired of being the 5th Wonderlily in a group. Plus I’m a twin and my sister and I have very similar names, which was always aggravating. I always wanted to change it but felt silly like the kind of things kids talk about so I never took myself seriously. Then I met a friend in grad school who went by her middle name and just used her first initial, and I thought that was genius. No legal changes. My middle name is a very common middle name, like Marie almost, but not used often as a first name at all. I like it as a first name though and always felt it would have suited me! I thought about trying that but it just seemed too late, my first name too entrenched. Now I’m probably dropping my middle name and making my maiden my middle too but I wish I could drop my first and go my Middle Maiden Married names!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’ve changed my name. Frequently. Some casually. Once legally. (Soon to be twice after marraige and I’m debating about legally changing my middle name as well.)

People have trouble adjusting, but if you remind them they’ll eventually catch on. It’s more or less up to you to monitor them. You teach peopel what ot teach you the same way you teach people what to call you.

I regret picking a random short basic name for the soccer field. You do a lot of shouting on the fifeld and “CLEMENTINE!” was just too long and just gathered too much attention. I started going by C. Now it’s fucking CeCe and I hate it so I’m constantly reminding people to stop it. new season just started and captain introduced me as my full name so it’s offically caught back on.

The only person who flat out refused to call me anytihng other than what I was born with was my mother, lol.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I knew a few girls back in undergrad who changed their name once they moved away to college. It did make it easier, and more understandabe to friends and family back home, to change a name during such a major life transition. My friend from the deep south named Jill-Ann was goth, very similar to Abby from NCIS. She legally changed to Madeline/ nickname Maddy. The new named suited her so much better that she did not have an issue with people calling her by her birth name anymore.

Legally changing first names is much more challenging than changing last name after marriage.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

lovesbooks99 :  If you prefer your middle name, you should change it to that!! Just tell people you’re going by your middle name now! Think, how many people in your social circle will you know for the rest of your life? Very few, most likely. Might as well choose a name you like, it’ll stick with you longer than people who might judge the choice anyway. 

I’ve known five people who’ve changed their names: 3 chose entirely new (rather exotic, lol) names, and 2 switched their middle and first names. One did the middle/first swap legally, the other kept her legal birth name for official documents but adopted her middle name as her first name socially and professionally. And I don’t know *that* many people, so I bet you this is more common than you think! The name changes are not common knowledge in their social circles, I know these facts only because I’m particularly close to them or because I knew them before the change.

The women who switched middle/first names did so without any issue or judgement, it was pretty easily accepted (although one is still called by her original first name by half of her extended family, just out of habit because she doesn’t see them often). Those who chose new names had more judgement, especially by family, but it was lighthearted judgement (probably more to do with the odd new choices, not the change itself) and the new names were eventually accepted by everyone. Initially people made mistakes but it’s a pretty quick adaptation. 

I will say all of these people made the change around the same time as a major life event, like moving or starting a new job, so that made things easier. And yes, they are all happier with their new names. I’m a big advocate of changing your name — it’s such a personal thing, why keep one you don’t like?!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

OMG! I just thought of 2 more people I know who chose entirely new names, I’m so used to their new names I forgot about them. So that’s 7 name-changers I know personally, in total, ha. 2 men, 5 women. And, as I said, I really do not have a massive social circle (and most are fairly conservative people) so I think this is a common occurrence but maybe not widely known.

The legality of changing your first name is pretty simple, in the US at least. It’s not a big deal.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

 lovesbooks99 :  Um, no. Either you do it or not, don’t bring it up as a debate topic at a family gathering LOL! Seriously bad idea. You tell them *after* the legal deed is done! Obviously family will object, but they’ll get over it. smile

If you want to switch, go for it! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Where in the world are you? Here in the UK you can call yourself what you want and it’s incredibly easy to change your name. My sister recently changed her name, and it did upset some family and it’s so hard to get used to. Initially she wouldn’t answer to anything but her new name, which is fair but it’s genuinely quite hard to get used to. Now she doesn’t mind if we slip up and she doesn’t mind that my dad still calls her by her old name. It worked out well.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Love my name. My mother wanted to name me something else, which I don’t think fits me at all. I’m glad my father won out on this one and insisted on an ethnic name. 

It’s unique, a few people have it, but thankfully I was the only one in my school. 

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