(Closed) Have you ever cheated? Have you ever been unfaithful?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Have you ever cheated? With any of the following: boyfriend, fiance, husband, SO?

    No, Never.

    Yes, but in a previous relationship.

    Yes, in a current relationship. ( not yet married )

    Yes, in a marriage.

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Yes in previous relationship but then I ended My relationship shortly after. I ended up staying friends with the preason I cheated with. I never told my ex about it but I doubt he would care – the reason I cheated was we had been together for not even a year and he was refusing to have sex with me.. Like I wanted it everyday and he wanted it 1-2 a month (the first few months is was several times a day then all of a sudden it was just NOT AT ALL) My ex had pursued me for years before we got together and it was like, as soon as he got me he didn’t want me anymore.. Idk. 

     

    I would never in a million billion years cheat on my fiancé!!!the reason I cheated was a shitty short term relationship. Even if things went bad with my fiancé I would talk with him and figure out a solution. 

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope.  And I never will.

    I’ve been cheated on in a previous relationship (emotional, not physical, but it still hurts just the same).  I know I’d never want someone else to go through what I went through.

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Once..when I was 18 — my at-home boyfriend refused to come visit me at college and wanted me to be the one traveling 12 hours round trip on a train every weekend. I figured it was a good way to get back at him for not sharing the travel. 

    It tore me up inside afterwards and I think I stayed in bed for a week and ended up in the hospital with dehydration.  Needless to say, I’m not the cheating kind and haven’t done it since.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes, I’ve cheated in the past, never on my Fiance and don’t plan to, but when i was younger in high school and what not, I cheated on some of my exes.

    ETA: I am still friends with almost all of my exes, and I always came clean. We all look at it as, it was high school, not like any of us were planning to marry those we dated back then.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Never never never. I would never be able to live with myself. 

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Never… I can’t even imagine cheating on anyone who I am in a relationship with.

    I would never do that to my Fiance.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m wondering if many who voted “no” have stories like

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    throughthebarricades?

    “well it didn’t count as cheating because of XYZ reasons”

    Post # 24
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

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    @plzhalp:  I voted no and I don’t have stories like that, I just never wanted to cheat. If I was in a relationship that I was unhappy with, I just ended the relationship, and I never wanted to hurt someone that I did care about

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

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    @plzhalp:  I certainly don’t have that kind of story, I have never done anything like that to any boyfriend. I never will.

    Post # 26
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve never cheated, even though I was tempted. Sometimes people find it easier to cheat than to confront the current situation they are in.  Having been cheated on myself, I realize it’s a cowardly way to go about ending a relationship. 

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yes I have, we were not husband and wife at the time and we have put the past behind us. THIS WAS YEARS AGO, like 7+ years ago, just to make it clear. Lol. It was not sex, just flirting on facebook and discussed with the other guy what our life would be like if we were together. Someone might not call that cheating but my heart wasn’t with my husband at the time. I felt so awful about it, I stopped speaking to the other guy before my husband found out. Your past does come to haunt you sometimes if you don’t tell the truth about it. We’re good now though and I couldn’t imagine living without my husband. He is so amazing! We’ve both done our dirt but have put it behind us.

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I emotionally cheated on my Fiance. He was just a boyfriend at the time and he was also talking to other females which was upsetting me because we continously fought about that. I felt as if I was being disrespected and I was giving him 110% of me when he wasn’t even giving me half. He even had the nerve to tell an ex-gf of his at the time (we had only been dating a few months but we lived together and had a son at the time) that if things didn’t work out with me and him he would want 2 get back with her. I met the guy at work. He was interested in me. I really wasn’t. But after a few attempts and after more fights with Fiance I let him take me out to dinner. We just hung out for a few months (dinner, mini golf, other random date night things). Then my Fiance and I had a really bad fight. I told him I was very upset with him because I felt like he should be doing these things with me, not someone I don’t even care about. I told him what was going on. He’s straightened up and there has not been a problem like that since. That was almost 3 years ago.

    Post # 29
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @plzhalp:  No, I just didn’t cheat. 

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have cheated when I was younger but would not ever cheat on my Fiance I love him too much to hurt him in anyway.

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Never. I’ve been on the other side of it, and I know how terrible it feels no matter what the circumstances may be.

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