(Closed) Have you ever cut a family member out of your life?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes, my whole family wants nothing to do with my father. My sister had so many problems with him she filed a police report against him for harrassment. He is a mess and our lives are better off without him in it. Sounds harsh, but it’s the truth. 

Post # 4
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166 posts
Blushing bee

Yes, my in-laws.  We put up with them for years knowing that they never liked me.  My husband finally sick of mainly her mouth and he told them exactly where they could go.  We haven’t spoken to them since 2001.  It’s been so peaceful around here.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

yeah my oldest brother … the “genius” …the drug addict who threatened to beat up my younger brother, who was 5 at the time, if he told my parents my oldest brother made him bring liquior in their house.  who spent all my aunts money while she was on her death bed (over 1/2 mill) … he is scum. much better off with out him. 

oh and my mothers only brother and his family, they who went yahting and missed the first day of her viewing.  

my wedding will be so drama free that they are out of our lives!

Post # 6
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My aunt on my mom’s side.  She says and does the most horrible things to people in our family, then is upset and can’t understand why she is all alone and no one wants anything to do with her.  I made the decision early on not to invite her to our wedding in risk of her causing a major and uncomforatable scene. It was a hard decision and one I didn’t like making.  Sorry to hear about you and your mom.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My little brother.  He isn’t completely out of my life, but I haven’t seen him since June of 2008 (and before that, I had only seen him sporadically since I moved out in July of 2004), and I’ve only talked to him a handful of times since then.  He was abusive toward me the whole time I lived at home – verbally, at first, and physically when he later got big enough.  He’s lazy, a constant liar, and a drug addict who’s been in and out of jail for theft and other things now, and he denies his own responsibility for everything.  I hope I have a good relationship with him one day, but I’m staying away until I think he’s ready for that to happen.  He may be on the way there…  He claims to have been sober for a good year or so now, and he finally got his high school diploma last month.

Post # 8
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’ve pretty much cut DH’s stepmom out of our lives. She stirred up a whole bunch of drama less than a month ago. Stuff that didn’t exist anywhere other than in her head. It was lovely. So we’ve closed the door on that for the time being. I think eventually we’ll mend fences but right now I don’t need someone’s imaginary drama and stress in my life. I’d rather exert my energy on the people I love and things that are constructive. It’s not easy, and it feels like crap at first, but you start to feel better and better as time goes on.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes my brother. It’s tough and hard at times to stick to and difficult for other family members to understand. However, if the relationship is not healthy and only adds negatives to your life then go for it, but be prepared to be judged by others for choice and to stick to your decision.

Post # 10
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4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My older brother. He’s just hateful. We used to be best friends, until got bad into drugs and into a gang when he was a teenager. I stood behind him through jail trips and rehabs. Now he’s a born-again Christian, and has decided that since I’m not religious and don’t think that every word spewed from Glenn Beck’s mouth is gold that I’m him enemy. He didn’t even acknowledge our wedding invitation. His wife told my stepmother who told me that they couldn’t come. I’ve spoken to him once in the past 5 or so years. He called our father on my wedding day, demanded to speak to me, and told me I was going to hell for marrying “that atheist bastard”. 

It was hard, before that, to admit that I wanted nothing to do with him anymore. But there’s only so much you can take before enough is enough. Sometimes ending toxic relationship is the best thing you can do for yourself. I didn’t read your other thread, but I’m sorry you’re having problems with your mom. 

Post # 11
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, my oldest brother. I haven’t spoken to him in probably 6 months but maybe a year. I tend to ignore him as severely as possible. He is a horrible human being and he cares only for himself. He told my sister that it is near embarrassment for her to be a stay at home mom and how wonderful it must be for her to have someone else to pay her bills while she does nothing all day. He didn’t show up for Christmas this year and I just unwrapped all of his gifts and gave them to my SO. I refuse to spend money anymore on someone who is so self centered. He put me in the dryer as a child and turned it on. I just cannot stand him.

Post # 12
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156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes…my aunt/Godmother.  She did some horrible things to my grandmother and mother; therefore, I want nothing to do with her.  I haven’t seen or talked to her in years and truly don’t know if I can ever have a relationship with her again.

Post # 13
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m almost there with my sister.  She doesn’t respect or support me.  She never makes any effort to contact me (I always have to call her).  She’s a pretty toxic person.  It’s just hard because she’s my sister…

Post # 14
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

sucks drugs play such a big part in these reasons ….. 

 

Post # 15
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795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, my father.  He was emotionally, mentally and psychologically abusive to my whole family, I was the first to realize this at age 12.  I stopped talking to him about 6 months before he moved out of our house(convinced my mom to divorce).  He past away January 2010 from a long battle with cancer, I never spoke to him since I was 12, that’s 9 years of no contact.  I do not regret my decison. 

Post # 16
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1555 posts
Bumble bee

Most of my family wants nothing to do with my uncle. He thinks he is gods gift to the world (and to most high school girls) and is a pompous ass. Mom and I ignore him. The aunts mostly ignore him. My grandmother, bless her heart, still talks to him even though she didn’t birth him (from my gpas first marriage).

But if I saw him I would have to fight the urge to punch him. It would not be pretty.

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