Have you ever dropped out of a wedding?

posted 9 months ago in Beehive
Post # 31
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

You never know which of even your most level-headed friends will turn into crazy bridezillas until it happens unfortunately.

All in all, I ended up spending around $3500 on one of my best friend’s wedding as nothing was paid for and none of the other bridesmaids had budgets to do much of anything for her. So I paid for 75% of her bachelorette, 100% of her shower, plus air travel and accommodation, my dress/hair/makeup, plus seven separate uber trips to run (between where we were not welcomed to get ready with her/barely had the door opened to say hello by her mother/sister in law) to pick up things she forgot and meet with vendors and set up the venue. She did gift us (me and her 2 bridesmaids) very pretty bracelets to say thank you. The difference between our situations I feel is she never expected or demanded anything, had she done this I would have stepped down.

Post # 32
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017


Well Maid/Matron of Honor is very out of line with the bach for sure, in our circle of friends we usually ask the bridesmaids/closest friends for budget and go from there. 

We have done Vegasd, NYC etx and also done plenty local ones.. everyone is always in agreement of budget.

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with having a more expensive away bach, as long as its a. not demanded and b. everyone wants to and can afford it!

Also i find it pretty absurd that shes having a budget wedding yet throwing herself an expenive bach like this lol.. sweet priorities. please tell me shes doing a cash bar next 

Post # 34
164 posts
Blushing bee

katecod12 :  Hello, late reply, BUT, i think that you shouldnt feel guilty for not spending the night. Just stay and hangout for a bit, and head home when it’s mimis time! Simple. If she gets upset and doesnt want you to be a part of it, then you know hwere you stand, and youve already mentally prepared for that possibility. 🙂

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