- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Warning – this is going to be long…
I feel like before everything about the wedding started, I pretty much had a clear vision of what I want for the wedding. This is from my dress, to my shoes, to the table settings, favors, etc. Now, with most of the vendors booked with some of the details pre-defined, it seems like I’m not getting what I wanted.
1. The dress: I know it’s common that what you envisioned is not what you end up with in terms of design. But, with my wanting to buy a dress than get a one made overseas, I’m afraid I will end up with a torn, ragged dress. I bought a sample. Don’t get me wrong, I love the dress, especially when I had it on and said yes. But since then, it’s been sent to the cleaners, and I just saw it yesterday. When I saw it again, it looked so worn down, not how I remembered it. The skirt is stiff, not soft as I thought it was before, and the seamstress found two holes on the train. Fixable, but still, what if it ends up not being special.
2. the shoes: It was always my plan to use red shoes instead of sparkly shoes. But now, I ended up buying the sparkly rather than the red shoes because they seem to look better with the dress I ended up getting. If I had a lace dress, red shoes would look nice I guess…
3. the tables: I wanted the reception to look light and clean. So, originally I wanted light gray or white linens, red flowers in white or clear vases. Now the mock ups I have are with dark gray linens. Although I got the flower and vases that I wanted, it all looks so dark. Not the light atmosphere that I originally envisioned.
4. the lighting: I originally wanted lights with lace detail being projected on the walls. But the lighting supplier I met with said they weren’t practical and they won’t look good because I was going to have drapings on the wall.
5. the dancefloor: I envisioned a dance floor, white with our monogram on it. But according to the suppliers and planner, they didn’t recommend white because it will easily get dirty.
6. the groom’s attire: I originally wanted a light gray suit for him since it was daytime. But, he didn’t care to look hard for it. He picked a slightly darker gray, lighter than charcoal, for his suit. What can I do? He has a say too right?
7. Bridesmaid’s dresses: I originally envisioned having short dresses that the girls can easily wear again. The designer that I was working with overseas though said that she prefers long because it looks more elegant. So now, everyone’s wearing long dresses.
I’m not saying I don’t think it would all work out. Some are giving me doubts about how everything will fall together. I’m worried about my dress for sure. I guess, I just keep saying yes or agreeing to whatever everyone else (Suppliers, planner, family, friends) say because I’m not confident that I know what will end up good or not.
I guess, what I’m trying to share is, because of all these deviations from what I had in my mind before, I’m not feeling as excited about the whole thing. 🙁 Is it just me? Does anyone else go through this? Does it get better?