- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2016
Location. If it wasn’t for Fiance, I’d move to the PNW in a heartbeat. We’re in Silicon Valley because it’s best for his career right now and I can work anywhere (although I’d have to pass another bar exam if I upped and moved). He loves it, I like it well enough (and love my current coworkers), and we own a home now, so it’s fine… just not my single lady dream of being an Oregonian hippee.
Oh and I also gave up being a total cat lady for him. If it wasn’t for him only wanting one, I’d have three. #truelove
Oof. That’s tough. I don’t know if that’s the best choice.
Both of us dread the city that we currently live in, but we are here to be together. When we moved here a couple years ago, we both made the decision that we would be move to a new state by a certain deadline. Relationships are all about sacrifice!
Thanks for the wonderful support bees. It means a lot. It was very hard on him too. He was very upset that I had to turn it down. If only I could show you guys how kind he is…please do t think he’s a jerk. It’s not like that at all!!
My husband is giving up a stable job as an electrical engineer to move to Washington with me. Ive always wanted to live there and found a job paying a good amount more. He’s very family oriented and tries so visit his family as much as possible, so he’s giving that up too. But when I got the offer he didn’t even hesitate, even though he doesnt have anything lined up. I appreciate him so much.
In the same position as a lot of bees, I gave up living in an ideal location. My DH and I were seriously planning on spending a year abroad together and about 6 months before we left, he told me he just couldn’t do it. I obviously have to respect that and gave that dream up. Also, he wants to purchase a home much more than I do, so we are buying a home. I know it is a financially sound decision, but the idea of being tied to one location for the long term is sometimes tough for me to deal with. It’s all about compromise though. We have decided that since we will be staying here, once we get settled financially with the new house, I will start grad school. If your DH/SO is not willing to ever compromise, then that is a problem.
We both have good jobs, but mine is more lucrative. DH volunteered to start telecommuting so that we could move for my new job. I am grateful, and he actually really likes it!
If you two are meant to be together long term, it will work out in your favor to have tried to stay in the same geographic location. There will be more job offers in the future!
My Fiance is actually giving up a lot to move down here with me. We’ve been in a long distance relationship for two years. He has a long-term job and a son (who he sees every other weekend). I am VERY aware and very grateful of the huge life changes he is making to be with me. I have two children who are with their father half the week, and without completely uprooting them and battling my Ex in court, I can’t really leave where I am. I am also in graduate school here, which farther roots me where I am. Being with someone means making decisions for the betterment of the relationship. Just make sure you aren’t the only one making sacrifices and that your needs are seen as being just as important.
I could have gone on exchange to Australia in my third year university, but I didn’t go because I didn’t want to be that far away from my Fiance (then he was just my bf). I don’t regret it. One day we will go to Australia and I will get to experience it with him. I’m not saying you always have to do everything revolved around your SO, but I think it can definitely influence your decisions. And you shouldn’t feel bad about it.
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