(Closed) Have you ever gotten an "unvitation"?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We have a couple that we sent a STD to that are now not being invited, but we’re simply not sending an invitation when the time comes.

Post # 4
Member
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MadameTussaud:  Isn’t that going to be awkward?  What will you do when they ask you about it?

Post # 5
Member
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I did once.  I was supposed to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man at a friend’s wedding.  She went completely psycho in the year before the wedding, though.  She was a bitch to everyone around her.  How I was uninvited was this: She was sick, so I brought her lunch and we chatted for a while, and she spent twenty minutes complaining to me about wedding drama with her family.  Finally, I spent about five minutes talking about the really nasty breakup I had gone through just a few weeks before.  She told me, “You know, I just really don’t have time to worry about you or your problems right now.”  I said okay, gathered my things, and left.  I was never told that I had been un-bridesmaided or uninvited, but I never got an invitation, either.  Also, the Maid/Matron of Honor was my roommate, and the bridal shower was hosted in my apartment, but I was told I wasn’t welcome to be at it.

I’m glad I got my unvitation.  From everything I heard, she was awful to her remaining bridesmaids, and the wedding was a real fiasco.

Post # 6
Member
1994 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@mspartridge:  I have never been uninvited. But, I loved this episode by the way! 

@GreenEyedMoon:  Oh and that was just beyond rude & tacky! Talk about a bridezilla!

Post # 7
Member
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  Well, the wife has always been very socially inept and tactless, but her husband finally was the straw that broke the camel’s back.  He’s a coworker of my Fiance and did something unforgivable at work, so I suppose if he wanted to maintain the friendship he should have thought about it first before stabbing my Fiance (and several other coworkers) in the back.  I have no fears about it being awkward – in fact, I’d love the opportunity to tell them to their faces.  But I guess I can’t go seeking them out just to make myself feel better…. so I’ll just wait and see if I happen to bump into them in public  =o)

Post # 8
Member
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

no, never been unvited.

@MadameTussaud:  what will you say when they ask about it?

@GreenEyedMoon:  sounds like you dodged a bullet there.  that’s just crazy.

Post # 9
Member
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This has never happened to me, but that episode of Seinfeld is hilarious.

Post # 10
Member
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mypinkshoes:  I’ll calmly tell them that since her husband prevented a few coworkers from having the opportunity to get promotions and raises at work, we unfortunately don’t have enough money to pay to have them at the wedding  =o)  I think they already have a good idea this is coming anyway… after the husband behaved the way he did, nobody in the office talks to him anymore.

Post # 11
Member
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, my coworker recently did.  Her boyfriend and her were invited to a wedding. Then, the couple (a week before the wedding) emailed the boyfriend and said that +1s were no longer allowed.  SO RUDE!

Post # 12
Member
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@mypinkshoes:  Yeah.  I am so glad that we ended our friendship.  She was awful.  I eventually started seeing a therapist at the campus health center to help me get through that breakup.  Well, about three months after all that went down with my bridezilla friend, I got a frantic call from my therapist to see if I was okay.  Apparently, despite the fact that I hadn’t even spoken with my “friend” in a few months and she had no clue what was going on in my life, she decided to call the health center and tell them that I was suicidal.  It was a whole fiasco as I tried to convince everyone that no, I really wasn’t planning on hurting myself, and yes, the other girl really did make everything up because she was crazy.

Post # 14
Member
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My sister and brother-in-law were uninvited to his sister’s wedding…  🙁 

I’m a little vague on the details, but I believe the mom pushed her to invite her brother (my BIL).  Bride claimed that they were too far apart in age (7 years) and thus, had nothing in common and why bother, it’s small etc.  So they were invited…but then the bride changed her mind and told them not to come at all when she changed the date.

Bride also got upset they didn’t offer to pay for bride’s plane ticket to their grandfathers funeral.  At one point she stopped speaking to them at all, but they are at least now “facebook” friends, and heck, she even accepted my request.  They used to have my nephew leave voicemail messages (she didn’t pick up the phone) to say happy holidays, but they gave up on that after a few years.  My 7 year old nephew has never met her and doesn’t realize he has another set of aunts and uncles.  It’s a really sad topic, although I did offer to be the obnoxious little sister in her stead for my BIL…   

Post # 15
Member
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@GreenEyedMoon:  geez, she sounds like she’s in some serious need of help!  Talk about drama llama!

Post # 16
Member
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

A co-worker invited my family than the next day uninvited us, via email calendar invite. In all fairness I think she decided she just wanted family in the end. ol

The topic ‘Have you ever gotten an "unvitation"?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors