- 6 months ago
I’m here to half vent and half just share stories. I want to know, have you ever had a gut feeling that a person your SO is friends is um… not right?? I can’t quite place the word… but I am talking about the times when your SO is friends with someone and that friend gives you a bad vibe… a vibe like they are into your SO in a way that is more than friends even if that person is not directly flirting with you’re SO.
I do want to be clear, my husband and I have friends from all genders and we always casually talk about our time spent with our friends. And whenever my husband or I experience someone hitting on us, we always tell each other.
And I trust my husband 100%. But there is this one woman that my husband is friends with who gives me a bad vibe. And the worst part, she hasn’t done anything to give me a bad vib about her! I first found out about her when she RSVP’d to our wedding when I, being the person who sent out all of the invitations, never addressed one to her. I got the email for her RSVP (we did RSVP’s online) and I was confused because I knew I didn’t address an invite to someone with her name. I asked my husband who she was and he said she was a coworker that he extended an invite to by word of mouth. Apparently she overheard about the wedding and reallllly wanted to go so he felt bad and invited her. I found it to be a little weird since I have never heard of her before, but I moved on and let it go.
Interested in meeting this woman, I looked forward to having polite conversation with her at our wedding when my husband and I visited every table. I never saw her and never was able to say a single word to her. No big deal.
Later, as my husband I are looking through the Facebook posts our guests tagged us in online, she posted about our wedding with all of these photos of just my husband at the wedding and none of me. She wrote a long thing about how she was happy for him and how his mother’s speech the best speech she has ever heard. I don’t usually like being the center of attention so normally I wouldn’t mind not being tagged or mentioned or anything of that manner. But I do find it odd to have no mention of the bride nor photos of the bride when you are posting about a wedding…? Don’t you want to mention both the bride and groom?? Anyway, I let it go and moved on.
I forget about the woman and tell myself I am being crazy for being slightly suspicious about her motives from the wedding. Then my husband and I decide to throw a Halloween party. The day before the party he said, “Hey I invited this woman from work. I don’t know if you will like her, but I think she is cool. She found out about the party and really wanted to be included.” The fact that he said he didn’t think I would like her threw me off. I wondered who this woman was until she walked into the party and I realized it was the woman from the wedding I was slightly suspicious about. Thinking it was all I misunderstanding, I made an effort to talk to her and get to know her. She kept shutting me down, so I never got to know her. After the party, she posted a bunch of pictures of everyone at the party except for pictures that included me. She wrote about how my husband puts on such a fantastic parties and is such a great host. Now I’m annoyed because my husband did not plan or put the party together at all. I did all of the work behind the party (cooking and preparing the food, putting up the decorations, etc.). I barely had time to fully relax and have fun because I was catering to everyone’s needs.
So, I still think I’m crazy for being suspicious of this woman and feel free to call me out as crazy, but my gut is telling me that this woman has bad intentions. Last time this happened with a friend of my husband’s she ended up being extra flirty with him to the point he became uncomfortable and told me all about it.
I feel like I can’t do much because there is no direct flirtation and my husband’s intentions are assuming the best of his friends and coworkers. But I can’t help but wonder if my gut feeling is right.
Anyone have similar stories?