(Closed) Have you ever had a good friend be with someone you dont think is right for ’em?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh my god, do i ever……..but, i’ve had experience with this in the past and I’ve learned my lesson well.  I hated my sister’s boyfriend for the first 3 or 4 years they were together, and i wasn’t the only one…my family, her friends, and basically anyone that met him didn’t respond well.  One time myself and 3 of my sisters friends got really drunk together and spent the whole night talking shit about him and devising ways to bring it up with her.  Luckily, we all chickened out and nothing was ever said.  Well, the next 4 years were a HUGE surprise.  He matured, got his act together, realised that he wasn’t always treating my sister well and basically just manned up.  I thank my lucky stars every day that i never said anything..i think it would have seriously affected my relationship with my sister.  Some people did say things to her about him, and she is no longer friends or on speaking terms with any of them…whereas i was the Maid/Matron of Honor at their wedding!

So, now i have a friend whose husband i hate and think she is way too good for – but i keep those thoughts completely to myself. 

Post # 4
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Yep, DH’s best friend.  He’s living with her now, hasn’t proposed yet though.  It’s not my place but at the same time…it’s just not right.

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

yes, one of hubbys best buddies got involved with a woman that wanted a ring and the attention and the dress  so they got engaged and 8mths later at the reception our entire table was taking bets on how long they would last for

the marriage lasted less than a year 🙁  

i said to hubby before the wedding he should have said something and hubby said that J (his buddy) wouldnt listen and he would lose a good friend in the process

afterwards they talked about it (i asked hubby to ask him if we should have said something) and J said he wouldnt have listened even if we did say something

he has since met a wonderful fabulous amazing and equal partner  – we are so f****** thrilled for him i dont have enough words to describe how good they are together

 

 

Post # 6
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2263 posts
Buzzing bee

I have a really good friend that is with one of my childhood friends and i honestly think that he can do so much better. I mean they do seem happy together but my childhood friend is pretty narcissistic and just plain toxic.

they dated a bit while in school and once i heard that they were back together, I couldn’t help but tell him to be careful. especially cause my childhood friend has her own child now, though i know that my friend will be an amazing father (which is what he pretty much is now). when she heard my ‘warning’ she basically felt in necessary to justify their whole relationship, which i didn’t think was needed cause i just wanted him to be happy; its not like i told him that they shouldn’t be together.

he is such a great person. he works multiple jobs to help support her and her child and is such a great role model for her son. I just can’t shake the feeling that shes taking advantage of him.

I basically avoid them now, cause its hard for me to see them together.

Post # 7
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922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yup…and I had to go to their wedding last night….they got engaged in August, a month after she told me she was breaking up with him because of emotional abuse…

Post # 8
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes! My BFF just got married to Mr. Wrong IMO.

He is emotionally abusive, rude to her friends and family and keeps her away from us. Not healthy at all.

Post # 9
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3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yep one of my best friends…. the guy she is with is just super controlling and he constantly puts her down (tells her she needs to eat this and work out and not talk like that, etc) im not a fan of him at all! i actually have told her this and she didnt get mad at all…. i dont think theyll be together too much longer anyways- they literally fight everyday! i just think that is so unhealthy.

Post # 10
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

One of my bridesmaid’s is with a man that beats her up when he gets mad.  She breaks up with him every time and then gets back together with him a few days later.  My fiance knows about the whole situation and doesn’t want to invite them to the wedding, but she is in the bridal party.  I wish I could get her to listen to reason, but she is a grown woman (42 yrs old!) and will do whatever she wants.

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