- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Im actually an avid poster on here but this is so much and i dont want my story to be connected to me (just in case someone finds this site…)
About a year before my wedding my Uncle cut the tip of his fingers off at a work related incident. The surgeon botched his surgery and ended up leaving exposed nerve endings. He was/is in a lot of pain and became severly depressed and had to go on medication. My uncle to me is everything…if something ever happened to my dad (heaven forbid) it would have been him that walked me down the aisle (he was an usher at the wedding). One of the side effects of being on anit-depression is suicidal thoughts. About a month before the wedding I got a call and he had slit his wrists. He was admitted in to the hospital and was there for awhile. His wife didn’t take it well and basically gave up on him. I would talk to him about twice a week and it was never good. I was so worried about him and cried every night, it was stressful and sad. He got out though and came to the wedding he had a great time and his son ended up showing (his son had been ignoring him) so he got to be with him. Wedding takes place and DH and I get back from a short honeymoon. WE get back to find out that my sister has called off the wedding, she is still being awful and hasn’t talked to her fiance about it really. the poor guy had a melt down the other day and is not doing well. He hasn’t told any of his family so he just talks to my mom. Mom cries almost everytime I talk to her. Sister has taken a job in Saskatchewan for six weeks. Mom and Dad don’t know this yet, but it will make them furious to know that she is doing this when she hasn’t resolved her issues with her fiance. This “situation” has added a lot of stress and tension to the family etc. as well as the whole thing that went down with my other sister (Ruth) and her boyfriend (Roger)s, they are together now and happy and have resolved their issues, but Ruth deals with depression as well and mom was exhausted and stressed when Ruth was fighting with Roger.(Roger had slept with his ex while my sister was away) Wednesday after work mom called me and Uncle cut three of his finger off on his right hand (his first accident was the left). He can no longer write and has been sent to the hospital…our first though is depression. I was a mess Wednesday night thinking Uncle is going to slip back into depression after he has been doing so well. DH meets me at the mall that night and is supposed to bring me my Maid/Matron of Honor dress to get altered,(im in a wedding on Thanksgiving weekend) he brings me a purple dress (not even red). I flippin snap at him and end up crying by myself in a massage chair in Home Outfitters…DH finds me and takes me home…im ….a….mess…I get up Thursday morning not wanting to go to work but go. I get into the office at 7:35 am and get a call from Ruth at 8:05, she is balling…she…is….pregnant. She just took a test that morning. My boss lets me have the day off, I met with Ruth last Thursday and we hung out for the day. We went to the walk in clinic and got another test done. He predicts she is about 5 weeks and gives her a slip for an ultrasound, we cry in the car for a half hour. I give her tons of my clothes to “grow into” and she leaves. DH comes home and I cried from 6:00 to 9:00 and went to bed at 9:30. I have been a mess all morning and my one co-worker has been hugging me telling me everything is going to be okay. But its not….right now…its not. Ruth is in school to be a dental hygienist assistant. She loves it! I have never seen her so happy. She called me awhile ago to tell me she ahs to drop out because they deal with to much radiation. She is unemployed has no education and is pregnant in one of the most expensive cities in the world. Roger is in camp so she had to wait till he called, she told him last night and he was stunned, he is only 22 …Ruth cries for him bc she feels bad. Ruth told my parents last Friday and everything has been a mess since. My parents are crushed. My other sister has just found out as well and she just emailed me saying she is officaly moving out of her fiances house (they have been together, and living together for FIVE years). her fiance doesnt know yet cause she wants to tell him in person.
This all happpened last week. This weekend i get a call at 9:00 in the morning and my 19 year old cousin was found unconcious in a ditch and is in intensive care. I spent the day (sunday) talking to the cops and sitting with him. He is being released today and should be fine but we still dont know what happened!!!!! I spent yesterday at home…just having a quite day. But my emplyer is starting to think i have made this all up! (honestly…fair enough..its alot for one week)
Im tired 🙁