Have you ever had an one night stand?

posted 2 weeks ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Have you had an one night stand?



    He approached me

    I approached him

  • Post # 2
    2786 posts
    Sugar bee

    Yeah, but then it turned into an ongoing thing for a few months after so Idk if that counts. It was a Guy I met at a bar in grad school and slept with that same night. I think he made the first move… but it’s a blur lol. 

    Post # 3
    4029 posts
    Honey bee

    Yes!  And he never left 😜 and I recently married him.

    but honestly, I had many one night stands.  In college, after college, when I got divorced (first marriage).  Sometimes a girl needs to hit it and quit it.



    Post # 4
    2321 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Plenty when I was in college. I was mostly approached but occasionally did some approaching. 

    Sex is fun and should be enjoyed (safely). 

    Post # 5
    784 posts
    Busy bee

    I had one. I was out with a co-ed group of friends. Drank a lot. Guy was definitely hitting on me. I decided to have a one night stand. I didn’t have another one because I found the first one so awkward haha. My drunk self retained some sensibility and checked the expiry date on the condom. I then proceeded to comment that he must have had it forever since it was due to expire in six months. He was trying to hang around in the morning. Then he was nice and came back because apparently I had lost my phone and he was the last number called on it. So he went and picked it up for me and brought it back. He was only in town for that weekend so I never talked to him again.

    I’ve had other people who I’ve slept with only once, but would be reluctant to call them a one night stand as I’d gone on 5 or 6 dates with.

    I nearly had a one night stand on holiday that I always thought would have been really good. My friend and I started talking to a bachelor party in a bar and they invited us back to the party at their hotel in the Gorgeous neurosurgeon (legitimately because we looked him up the next day). He was smart and charming. We talked until 4 in the morning. He asked me to stay but I said I had to go back to the hotel with my friend. We had plans to meet up as a group the next day. My friend said she didn’t mind if I had a sleepover. 2am rolls around, I’m about to leave with him and he suddenly fesses up that he has a wife and it would be a terrible idea.


    Post # 6
    1713 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    Yep. Went on a bit of an extra fun “flirting with self destruction” spiral when I was in my early 20s. It ended at 24 when I met DH who, despite me fighting it for a while, ended up being what I actually needed at the time.

    I have mixed emotions when I look back on it – not because of the casual (safe) sex – that was fun – but because of my mental health at the time, which was not great.

    I sometimes did the approaching, other times had them approach me. This was also the early days of dating apps (2013-2014) – so I became part of the cohort that gave Tinder its reputation as a one-night-stand generator. 

    Post # 7
    519 posts
    Busy bee

    I was confused when I read “one night hand” and thought it was something like giving a stranger a handjob XD

    Post # 8
    13 posts
    • Wedding: July 2016

    It was during college and I approached him. He was so cute but the “event” was short lived and most of the night was spent chatting. It definitely was not what I was looking for. He wanted to meet up again but I declined. Lamest one night stand ever!

    Post # 9
    328 posts
    Helper bee

    Yes, I’ve had some very fun one night stands.

    Post # 10
    10293 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

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    l was planning one, well my friends were planning one for me. We were on a very low budget camping holiday in Noosa, Queensland ( Australian bees will need no more info than that) and it became known l had never had a one night stand. Well, long story short this guy approached me and l thought he seemed like a good candidate for my first. Didn’t work because we are still together decades later……



    Post # 11
    686 posts
    Busy bee

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    @cindylouboo2: does my fiance count? 

    Yes, I’ve had a handful, all in my early 20s during a single time in my life. I live in a city with a lot of single 20 somethings and a lot of bars.  The approaches were usually casual, lots of comingling, lots of drinks, and sometimes I clicked with someone and sometimes I didn’t. I don’t think there is anything wrong with them as long as you are safe and don’t feel bad about yourself after. 

    I guess it worked out for me since I’m marrying one! 

    Post # 12
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I had one. I went out for drinks with some co-workers and more friends of friends showed up. This guy was a friend of my co-worker’s (I think) and we started talking because we were the only sober ones. We both were not drinking that night.  This guy was tall, handsome, had a motorcycle, and was a police officer. Totally hot. We made out on his bike and then went to his place. TBH the making out session was hotter than the actual sex. He texted me a few times afterwards but I was not interested. It was a fun little adventure but I was not interested in getting to know him at all. 

    Its a nice fun memory of my single days. 

    Post # 13
    1546 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve had a few. Also, I guess it depends how we define one night stand. Also, are we talking with approaching the initial hello I’m x approaching or the final my place or yours discussion. I’m not sure I’ve ever approached the initial meeting but I have suggested going  to mine.

    Most experienced have been good. One up could have done without. I wasn’t too into him but I was feeling horny and it had been a while and he was keen. Once i didn’t use a condom which was an odd fluke since I’m always so careful! I dunno if I have special stories. I once met a guy in a bar. Then on one weekend he came over to my city and we had so much sex and that was it. Technically a 2 night stand but it was awesome.

    Post # 14
    836 posts
    Busy bee

    Yes! Had a couple and had great fun.

    Messaged a guy on tinder then that night we met up in a hotel. Never saw him again after that!

    Did the same again actually with a different guy but ended up seeing him a few times for sex. 

    Met a date for the first time and had sex in the back of his car. SHOULDN’T have seen him again but did….

    I guess most of these have started as one nighters but often gone into something longer.

    Marvellous fun though!!

    Post # 15
    9303 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    One right after college and a bad breakup. We had a fun time but I learned it wasn’t really my jam and never felt the need to do it again. I chalked it up as an interesting life experience. 

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