Have you ever had an one night stand?

posted 2 weeks ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Have you had an one night stand?

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    He approached me

    I approached him

  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee

    I haven’t but I’ve lost count of how many guys I’ve snogged on dance floors while drunk before if that counts for anything hahaha. Mostly while on holidays overseas. Anyway I’m married and boring now lol xo 

    Post # 32
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    @LittleFrenchBee:  same. I could have had SOO many, but I lacked the confidence that I wouldn’t be struck with mysterious open wounds and sores over my entire body, accompanied by a pregnancy that would kill me.

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee

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    @tetonlove:  exactly!!!!  Or that no decent man would ever want to be your husband. That you’d die of some sexual illness. All of that!

    Post # 34
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    Busy bee

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    @tetonlove: Waking up trapped at the bottom of a well with some guy telling me to “put the lotion in the basket”…..

    Post # 35
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    Worker bee

    I had a few and I regret all except one of them. I’d come out of a super controlling, abusive relationship and was just absolutely kicking-out, trying to assert my freedom. But yeah, I have such horrible regret. I mostly just did it ‘because I could’ and that absolutely icks me out now 🙁 the one I don’t regret was a a colleague who was lovely and we both didn’t want anything further 🙂 

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

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    @girlfriendphd:  I am exactly the same, nice to see other people with the same perspective. 

    Post # 37
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    Newbee

    I had many one night stands when I was going through a really dark time in my life. And it did help somewhat but also was kind of destructive in other ways. 

    Post # 38
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    Newbee

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    @Waytooexcited:  same. I was in an abusive relationship and was only able to have my ex finally leave me alone after we broke up and I slept with someone. He was batshit crazy and I was lucky I did it.

    Post # 39
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    Worker bee

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    @jessikathrow:  wow, good, it was worth it if it made him leave you alone! Mine just got more psychotic and possessive when I tried to move on and he found out 😬 it made him come sniffing back around so I had no benefit really because the sex was rubbish too 😑 when I met my now – fiancé I ended up having to go to the police because he was turning up at my house and putting love letters in the letterbox and watching my fella on the way to work. Glad you got away safely ❤️

    Post # 40
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Yes. My entire 20s were consecrated to this kind of behavior, usually drunk.

    It carried over a little into my early 30s, but with a far better batch of men.

     

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 1996

    Three of them when I was in my 20s and early 30s…long time ago.  I look back now and realize how stupid it was for so many reasons.  What if I had become pregnant?  Gotten an STD?  Not to mention, all three were because a man I was involved with wanted threesomes/swinging etc.  I wanted to please them.  But bottom line, did not enjoy…just stupid.  I would never do that stuff now.

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee

    None in the sense of meeting a total stranger at a bar and going home with them and never seeing them again. But a few in the sense of sleeping with someone on the first date, and it not turning into a regular thing. None of them were satisfying sexually, and as someone who typically got STD tested between every partner–and was somewhat paranoid about STDs and pregnancy–honestly it wasn’t worth the hassle. 

    I’ve never heard the “demisexual” label before this thread but I really identify with it. Even guys who I dated for a bit, if I wasn’t super into them the sex was just not very good. I don’t have a moral hangup about it, I just found sex with people I didn’t have a strong connection with pretty lame, and never o’d from it. My husband is far and away the best sex for me. 

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee

    I haven’t had a one night stand. I think for a combination of reasons (religion, demisexuality, a strong love of True Crime which makes you constantly afraid of being murdered lol) I have only had sex with my husband.

    But, the first time was before marriage. I started dating him when I was 21, though, and I was married by 24 so maybe if I had been “on the market” at an older age I would’ve grown exasperated and things would have turned out differently. 

    Post # 44
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    Newbee

    I have had a few. Both women and one man approached me, I approached the two other men. I’ve never really been one to put myself out there, especially with women.. didn’t want to look like a pushy douche. But when you’re not straight it is sometimes necessary. 

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee

    After getting divorced at 31, I had my little sewing the wild oats period hahaha the closest I’d say is this way younger guy approach me at the bar and we went home together that night but I did see him again once more for a hook up. That’s my one and only experience hahaha 

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