(Closed) Have you ever had someone insult your wedding? :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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1586 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My grandma cringes everytime i mention something we’re buying… but i’ve gotten over it really fast

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with abbie and with deathbydesign.  They either sound jealous or RUDE!  If someone asked me a question like that I would just say “I’m not sure, how much was it per plate at YOUR wedding?” and put them on the spot a bit.

Don’t let anyone make you feel badly about your wedding.  People are just people and they can be rude, hurtful and temperamental but I assure you it has NOTHING to do with your wedding and EVERYTHING to do with themselves!

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

gosh people can be so insensitive, they may not be aware they are doing it, my bridesmaid implied my ring was a conflict diamond i think thats pure jelousy. try not to get upset, everyone seems to want thier two pennies in when it comes to a wedding and you can never please everyone.  

i agree with linguo42 advice, hopefully they will walk away feeling a little ashamed. 

best advice is not to mention money at all from now on, i have a very similiar experiance my mother and Mother-In-Law both believe we are spending too much money and have voiced opinions but i told them its our wedding it what we want. 

i hope things start to get easier for you x

 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Ashley_B:  Same! Does that make me gothic too?!

People can be so negative sometimes, like a co-worker told me that incorporating black and ivory was “so eighties”. Let’s just say I have not spoken about wedding details any more with her and she still asks all the time. Jealousy, rudeness, negativity? No thanks! It’s MY day and MY vision. Save yours for YOUR day.

Rant complete!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This if YOUR wedding and you should be able to do whatever YOU want and spend whatever YOU want. For the most part, people that say negative comments like that are just jealous. So its best to ignore them. Besides, everyone has different taste, you can’t expect everyone to like every single detail of your wedding. So do whatever makes YOU happy. Dont stress on what other people think. The people that care for you, will be there to celebrate your special day, not go critique the wedding.

I’ve actually had this happened to me (with my mom and a few other family members). But I’ve learned to stop sharing my details with other people. Everyone is going to have a different opinion on “whats nice”, so it will be impossible to please everyone. So, I’m going to do whatever makes ME happy.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My father-in-law said our wedding is going to be ‘weird’ and asked if it would be legal since our friend is marrying us.  I’m letting it roll off my back- I know him so I’m not surprised.

Are you surprised that these people are acting the way they are?  I find that previous behavior tends to repeat itself, good or bad.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

double post

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Regarding wedding colors, I saw a black and red wedding and thought it very classy. My cousin commented in text, “oh, black like a funeral lolz”.

This cousin isn’t invited to my wedding for other reasons, but she’s said worse.

I’ve seen a black and yellow wedding (more black than yellow), the bridesmaids were in black but had yellow shoes and calla lillies as bouquets. I was astonished by how well it was pulled off because they DIY’ed it.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Some people just don’t have a filter.

This past weekend Fi and I shared some details of our day with his mom’s family, let’s just say I didn’t cry cause I’m a big girl now. They were not critizicing our wedding per se, but some of our guests, ceremony and decor choices, saying we should do this this or that way.

You know what? It’s our day and we’re doing it the way we want to!!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@DeathByDesign:  I think they sound jealous aswell. I had a friend like that, but I cut her out pretty quick.

She was so jealous and always wanted me to feel bad about how we wanted to have our wedding day.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

I agree with the PPs. It’s your day to do with as you like. If other people are negative, try not to let it bring you down. Day of you should be so excited/nervous/busy having fun that you won’t think about any of these things.

@mireisen: Black is one of our main colors too. I have never really worried about it being funereal. . .

@MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  Hurray for March 31 in VA!

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@80sbee:  I say tell them “I hope your wedding is everything you want it to be, mine certainly is.” They can shove it.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes, I have heard that it’s not a real wedding unless we serve beef, if we have pasta we’re cheap, dj’s are a horrible idea,  if we don’t do x, y, z e are terrible awful people. on my worst days, I just want to not invite these people. but they are family so if they are not invited i will ruin the relationship forever. sigh.

so, onto plan b, only share details of the wedding that are not personal. everything else can just be a surprise until the guests show up when it will be too late for “constructive criticism”

Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

@80sbee:  I keep having this happen to me too =( I really am worried everyone will be talking bad about my wedding all night (it doesn’t help theres 3 weddings before and after mine super close to my date with a lot of the same guests). It really does hurt. I am so sorry. 

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