(Closed) Have you ever had the "breaking up" dream?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I’ve had them too. I wouldn’t read too much into it! I also had a dream once that the cheerio mascot took me to a football arena full of milk and cereal. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

So when I first moved in with my now fiancé (first man I ever lived with) I would always dream that he was leaving me. It was happening a lot. I would wake up crying sometimes which was so creepy.

The dreams are coming from our own insecurities…from a deeper place. I started thinking about what I feared and it was the relationship NOT working out..I put a lot of pressure on it working. 

Once I let myself go there with these thoughts the dreams stopped. We have been together for about 3 and a half years…getting married in Septmember.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I had one where he cheated on me. I also had one where my ex, ex’s family, me, my family, and fiance were all eating dinner together at ex’s family’s house…that one was bizarre and uncomfortable. I don’t read too much into these at all lol

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’ve had ones where my fiance has died a few times, esp. lately. As PPs have said, I think it’s entirely about our own insecurities and what we’re afraid of. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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sunnierdaysahead2:  Have you heard the song “I’m Gonna Love You Like I’m Gonna Lose You” by Meghan Trainor and John Legend? That song is so popular because your experience with the dreams and momentary worrying is so very common that everybody relates to it!

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Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

I had a breaking up dream last night! I dreamt that I broke up with him for my ex (this would NEVER happen in real life!!!) but I was miserable with my ex and I missed my SO much and was searching for him in my dream but I couldn’t find him anywhere. I woke up missing him like crazy! Dreams are so dumb lol XD

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Bee Keeper

I had one dream that was quite vivid. It took place in a couple of locations…..or maybe it was two dreams in the same night…..one location was at home, or rather a weird surreal version of home that was half my childhood home, the other at a party of friends of ours…..and I was just so mean to him in my dream 🙁 bitching at him over every little thing, treating him indifferently at the party or being so high maintenance etc…and he was trying to be attentive and sweet and make me happy but I didn’t appreciate it in my dream and then back at home he was all dressed up and walking out the door, and another relative told me he was going to a funeral and he looked so sad and forlorn but it was too late to reach out to him, he was done.

And I woke up and felt so bad I wanted to hug him. It bothered me that in my dream I had been so petty and bitchy and hadn’t seen how hard he was trying and hadn’t even known how we’d grown apart over this, to the point where I didn’t even know whose funeral he was going to. I wondered if it was a subconsciious message to myself to be nice, to appreciate him more etc….but I do appreciate him …lol most of the time….but oddly enough the dream occurred when things were good btw us, not after a fight or anything…so ???

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space

I have! Only a few times, but I know the panicky feeling you’re talking about. I’ve even woken up weeping! Eventually, I’ll realize that it was a dream (usually after reaching over to make sure he’s still there lol) and feel relieved but the upsetting feeling still lingers for a while. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’m so glad you made this thread as it makes me feel reassured I’m not the only one whose had these dreams. My most recent one, my fiance said he didn’t want to marry me anymore, packed his bags, and was already one foot out the door. I remember begging him to stay and he was so cold and mean to me. Which is so weird because things between us are great in real life and he is so excited to marry me. I woke up from my dream crying and upon hearing my dream, he cried too! lol only bc he said that he would never ever treat me that way. Funny thing is, right before I went to bed that night I said to myself “well, I haven’t had a nightmare in a long time.” I think my subconscious was making up the worst possible scenerio of a nightmare for me. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY

I’ve had these dreams several times, too. It’s been a few months since my last one, thank goodness. Every time, I wake up totally freaked out and sad for days and a couple of times have started fights for no reason because of it. Naturally, I then feel even worse.

I would say it’s because my SO is constantly saying he’s going to sell me or that he needs a new one (as in girlfriend), but the way he says these things I’d honestly be more worried about our relationship if he DIDN’T say them for a couple of weeks.

I’m doing my best not to let those crazy dreams get to me when they do happen. It’s really hard, but ugh. If I fail, things get bad for no reason other than my own unfounded anxiety. I have so many journals, maybe I’ll start writing them down if/when they happen.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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sunnierdaysahead2:  Maybe you have them when things are good because there is a little corner of your subconscious that is really sceptical and thinks ‘What if these good times don’t last? What if something happens that spoils everything??’

As to your question I have these dreams sometimes too. And I also have dreams where I lose my voice (usually when I am being attacked). Those ones can be really scary.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

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sunnierdaysahead2:  possibly sub-conscious fears…..but ditto, weird that it would come when things fine. I occasionally have vivid dreams (about a variety of stuff) and I usually write them down in my journal, I’ve kept a journal for years, like a diary not specifically a dream journal. 

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