(Closed) Have You Ever Miscarried? Is there a Family History?

posted 9 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Have you ever had a miscarriage? Do you have a family history of miscarriages?

    To the best of my knowledge, I have never had a miscarriage.

    I have had 1 miscarriage.

    I have had 2 or more miscarriages.

    To the best of my knowledge, I have no known family history of miscarriages.

    Others in my family have had miscarriages.

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I have a family history of miscarriage and Ive had to deal with it more than once myself…but I am not comfortable enough to go into the details. Long story short, I have a bicornuate uterus which the dr has told me it makes me higher risk for miscarriage and pre-term labor. My sister’s uterus is also the same way.

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’ve had 5.  My mom had one that she knows of.  My grandmothers on both sides had between 4-6 each that they know of.   We’ve also found that we have genetic issues that can cause clotting and miscarriages.  I think it’s waay more common then people talk about.  I was caught by surprise by my first and it wasn’t until after my 2nd that people started coming out of the woodwork and telling me they’d had one (or more) too.  With that in mind, I’m VERY open about discussing my miscarriages to the point of posting openly on facebook about my losses and miscarriage awareness.

    But then I also had a septum (it’s now been removed), I have Hashimotos, PCOS, and I’m 37.  

    Post # 34
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I was terrified of this pre baby. My mom had three miscarriages and a still born baby before going on to have three healthy children. I was terrified particularly of the still born because she had that baby later in pregnancy. Thank god we got pregnant during NTNT and we have a beautiful healthy girl!

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My mom didn’t TTC until she was in her late 30s. She had me when she was 38 and had my brother when she was 43. She had two miscarriages between her pregnancies. I think part of the reason she had miscarriages was because she was older and therefore at a higher risk.

    My grandmother gave birth to 15 children (crazy, I know) and I’m not aware of her having any miscarriages. I guess if she did have them it certainly didn’t stop her from trying again!

    I’m 29 and I’ve had two miscarriages in the last 6 months (I have no living children). Before TTC, I assumed that because I’m healthy, don’t drink or smoke and have very regular menstrual cycles that I’d have no problems having babies. It seems like I don’t have any problems with getting pregnant…. I just can’t stay pregnant :(. I’m hopefully going to have tests soon to see if there’s any cause for my miscarriages but the doctor said that most times the tests don’t turn up anything and the cause remains unknown.

    It seems like having a miscarriage is in most cases just really, really bad luck. It sucks how common miscarriages are and yet no one likes to talk about them. I think the key is to remain positive and if your worst fears come true and you happen to have a MC, just remain positive and hopeful and keep trying.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @As_You_Wish:    If you don’t want to wait (I was able to get my RPL testing done after my 2nd miscarriage because of age and length of time trying) and if you have one of those Dr’s/insurance companies that wants 3 miscarriages before they will test, you can do a direct to consumer genetic test that will tell you about the genetic clotting issues like MTHFR and the Factors, lupus, and a ton of other things.  I ended up adding it to my RPL testing because I wanted more information and I’m glad I did.  23andme is offering their at home spit tests for just $99 right now and they will test around a million possible genetic mutations.  

    Anyway, if you are interested in hearing more, just hit me up.  🙂

    Post # 37
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I miscarried twins, 3 weeks apart. I believe it was due to the extreme stress I was under at the time (not like normal work related stress for example, but devasting, life changing events).

    My mother never had a miscarriage, I don’t know about my grandmothers.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @inky_1:  I’ve had two. One was when I was 31 and got pregnant on the Mirena IUD. They suspected a tubal pregnancy with that one. My second one was this past October, I was 36 and actively trying. My Dr. Said age is a big factor and part of life, it goes up with age. He said at 40 you have a 50% chance of MC. My mom never had one, my sister did at 26 then went on to have 2 healthy pregnancies. My grandmother MC twins at 5 months, not sure if she had others MC, not something she discussed with me. I forgot to add my first pregnancy was fine with my son, I was 29 when we conceived him.

    Post # 39
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ve miscarried once and my family has no history. My miscarriage was medical, so it’s a little out of bounds in this poll.

    Post # 40
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    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve never been pregant.

    My mom had one 2 years after marrying and TTC. Then 2 years later, she had me. 6 years later, my sister came along as a happy accident.

    I wonder how this would affect me. I don’t even know how fertile I am (I’m on bcp). My sister is having trouble TTC. But my grandmother had 8 children!

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I have had 5 pregnancies:  3 miscarriages (2002, 2002 and 2003) and 1 ectopic (just this past month) following a live birth (my daughter was born in 2000 and is 12).

     

    One of the reaons why there isn’t as much info on miscarriages a generation ago is because even when I was pregnant with my daughter, you weren’t really testing until you were 2 weeks late for your period.  Since LOTS of women miscarry at 5-6 weeks, most don’t know or couldn’t confirm pregnancy or just if they were late.

    I believe that is a DRAWBACK to early testing now.  In my opinion it would be MUCH better for women if they didn’t know about these miscarriages at 5-6 weeks because MOST of the time there is no diagnosable  cause.  So then the couple gets all worried and upset and that can impact their stress level or enjoyment of subsequent pregnancies.

    To answer your question, though….. no one in my family has a history of miscarriage. My sister, however, has PCOS and just had her daughter (unassisted) after 10 years of no BC at all, but no pregnancies before this one.  My aunt had a hysterectomy right after she was married, which we think was endometrios – but back then it was more difficult to diagnose.  My mom had 3 kids.

     

    For me – I went through the million dollar barrage of testing – both back in 2003 after my 3rd miscarriage and again now…. with no cause discovered either time.  Just one of those things, I guess. 

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I have miscarried once (that I’m aware of), and there is no family history of miscarriage. My mother had 2 healthy pregnancies, my grandmothers both had healthy pregnancies, and all my aunts had healthy pregnancies. It’s difficult, because it also means no one really understands how I feel.

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @dodgercpkl:  Thanks for the tip, I will keep that in mind. Right before I had my D&C I asked the OB if we could do any testing since I’ve had two miscarriages in a row. He said he can do the tests but I need my family doctor to give me a referral. I’m going back to the OB for a post D&C appointment on January 7th so I’ll ask more about the tests then and see if the referall is absolutely necessary. My family doctor is a horrible doctor and would probably not give me the referall. Plus, after the way he dealt with me during the miscarriage, I kinda hope to never see him again.

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