(Closed) Have you ever "played hard to get"?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever "played hard to get"?

    Yes, and I would again.

    Yes, but it's not something I make a habit out of.

    No, I've never played hard to get.

    Are you talking about fishing? It sounds like you're talking about fishing.

  • Post # 17
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    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Of course! Lol, I used to be very, very good at flirting.

    Simple rules:

    Don’t make the first move.

    However long it takes him to get back to you, take at least that long to get back to him.

    In group settings, spend more time talking to others than to him.

    Turn down offers to hang out at least as often as you accept them.

    I don’t know, I just don’t think, when you’re first starting to see someone, that you want to seem too available. I know I’ve been turned off by guys who seemed to into me at first, so I can only assume it goes both ways.

    I still sometimes play a little hard to get with DH! Keeps the mystery alive! 🙂

    Post # 18
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    766 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsRevolutionize:  I never really played hard to get- I was never super readily available, but I don’t believe in playing games in a relationship. I’d rather just be up front with who I am and how I am. Fiance did have to chase me down a little bit to get me to commit to dating him exclusively, but that wasn’t so much a game thing on my part- I really wasn’t sure if I was ready to be in a relationship after a bad experience. Eventually I decided he was worth the emotional risk. I’m glad I did!

    Post # 19
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    9830 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I can’t stand mind games, so no, I would not. And if a guy did it to me, it would probably have the opposite affect of what he was hoping for, lol.

    Post # 20
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    708 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t play. I am.

    Ok, I kid, but it’s all in the approach. If you’re playing games, that’s that. If you’re setting standards and expectations that you’re comfortable with, that’s that.

    I wouldn’t really like someone showing up 30 minutes early for a date (in the early stages), because it shows a lack of regard for my schedule. I can see how someone might think that’s a game, but to me it’s a pretty straightforward social construct.

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