(Closed) Have you ever regretted the way you treated someone in the past?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever regretted the way you treated someone in the past and wish you could undo it?
    Yes : (98 votes)
    96 %
    No : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 17
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    8470 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Absolutely. I wasn’t too nice to my brother’s ex-girlfriend. I don’t know why. Well I sorta do, but would rather not get into it. I was just being a little bitch & admit it completely. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    119 posts
    Blushing bee

    Well, yeah I was miserable to a SIL for absolutely no reason other than the rest of the family was.  I’m ashamed of how much of a bitch I was. 

    One day I woke  up and just felt AWUL that I had been so mean.  I took her aside and apologized from the bottom of my heart.  She was gracious and said “thank you”, but she took her time about being friendly.  I think she was waiting to see if I walked the walk in addition to talking the talk.  Several years later, we are very chummy.  She even asked me to read a biblical passage at her husband’s funeral.  I’m glad she let me into her life and I learned a very valuable lesson about how to treat someone.

     

    Post # 19
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    1603 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have a tendency to be mean when I actually am trying to be funny, and I have been absolutely horrible to two past coworkers. I’d love to apologize to them, but I don’t think it really matters because we don’t really see each other anymore. But I regret it all the time.

    Post # 20
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    There have been times that I look back and see the error of my ways. At the time that they happened, I could not have changed it. I would have to go back years before that to change things so that I didn’t end up developing those tendencies which lead me to behave that way. 

    However, once I recognized myself as the problem and the common factor, I started to change. I am a better person now that I was when I behaved that way. I have grown, and I regret acting that way. 

    I also realize it would have taken changes long before those breaking points in order to not have those breaking points happen.

    Post # 21
    Member
    4856 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I wish I had wasted less time and effort being nice and avoiding conflict with people who were/are assholes.. does that count?

    Post # 22
    Member
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was a bully in middle school. Once high school hit the tables turned: I put on about 45-50lbs due to medication and was absolutely miserable and was bullied myself. Karma is a true bitch.

     

    Post # 23
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    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I cyber-bullied a girl when we were in middle school. It was pretty severe, and I don’t really know why I did it. A couple years later in high school we were friends (but not close), and I did apologize. She appreciated it, but had already moved on. It felt nice to get some closure on it though.

    Post # 24
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    2942 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    OP, I had a friend in middle school who the popular girls twisted me into bullying.  I don’t even know why, but girls at that age are just mean and awful.  I got out of it after a while, but at that point, we weren’t friends.  It got so bad for her at our school, she transfered until high school.  When she came back, I was really so ashamed at what I had done, I didn’t even know how to act around her.

    Surprisingly, we both came to terms with it.  She was one of my best friends at the end of high school, and will be a reader at my wedding.  I still feel bad about it, but it’s now water under the bridge of a very long friendship (we had been friends since kindergarten, and don’t realy count those few years when we talk about things)

    Maybe you will never get to that point, but I really hope that she took your appology sincerely. 

    Post # 25
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    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  I think you were right to apologize too. That’s the extent of your ability to do anything about it now, so you’ve done everything. Well, short of stalking her but that wouldn’t do.

    I was a bit callous the way I invited and then uninvited my father to my wedding. We hadn’t spoken in a few years and I believe he was pleased that I called him to tell him I was engaged. After we spoke about my wedding a couple of times (with me implying he would be invited but without the normal father of the bride privileges) I had become SO ANNOYED with him in those few conversations that I decided to not invite him. That was mean. I don’t want to treat anyone that way and I wish I had just not called him. I don’t regret him missing my wedding, but I regret how I handled it.

    My father had abandoned my mother while she was pregnant with me. He moved and changed his number! Can you imagine? I met him at 15 when I tracked him down. He had another family (with a daughter my age!) and often ignored me while claiming that he loves me sooo much. He stood me up repeatedly, never bothered to wish me a happy birthday and then claimed I didn’t treat him very nicely when I would call him out on it.

    Meanwhile he was a great dad to his other “real family” kids. He was surprised when I told him he would not be doing any of the parent duties at my wedding and he didn’t understand why not! That was the final straw. He would show up and play the proud papa when he had never ever been there for me? No. I blew up at him. But it was a weight off my shoulders when I uninvited him.

    Post # 26
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    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Hell yes. I now know better so I do better.

    Post # 27
    Member
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Dude, if you don’t regret half the **** you’ve done in your life, you ain’t freaking human.

    I’ve always regretted the stuff I did… not th stuff I didn’t do. I really wish I’d been there for more people as well… sins of omission, not necessarily sins of comission, if you see what I mean.

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