- SamanthaLovesJames
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
We’ve all been to few weddings. Have you ever skipped on giving the bride & groom a gift? And if so why? Just curious.
Thanks for sharing.
We’ve all been to few weddings. Have you ever skipped on giving the bride & groom a gift? And if so why? Just curious.
Thanks for sharing.
@SamanthaLovesJames: Nope, I haven’t. I’ve always given a gift.
I haven’t been to alot of weddings since I’ve been on my own [out of my parents house], but when I am invited, I do gift.
I would feel strange if I didn’t give something!
Yes because I was Bridesmaid or Best Man and had to pay $100 for hair and make up 🙂
Yes, FI’s dad and step mum had a very informal ceremony (one of her daughters wasn’t there, and one of his son’s wasn’t either, I think there was 5 of us). It was nice and all, but I honestly didn’t even think to give a gift because it was just like ‘let’s go to this person’s house, have a 5 minute ceremony, snap 5 pics on our phones and go home’.
If I had a re-do, I would give them a gift. I feel bad that I didn’t, it was the first wedding I went to as an adult and it didn’t even occur to me. In my defense, the reception was at a local resteraunt and you had to pay for your own meal, I see a lot of people vote not to give a gift if you pay for your dinner. I still feel bad though.
I always give a gift. It is so rude not too.
I am a dancer and performed at my friends wedding last year. She told me not to give her a gift but i still gave one anyway.
I hope I don’t ever forget!!
@SamanthaLovesJames: I spent $2k getting myself there and truly felt that was gift enough. I did give her a nice card. We talked about it so no biggie.
Yes, but they were receptions where the guest pays to attend, so a gift isn’t expected.
Never given a physical gift at a wedding (we do that at showers up here)- We give cash. I haven’t given a check for less than $100 (which typically barely covers your plate!).
I have, when I was younger. I think I was just completely clueless and didn’t realize you were supposed to give a gift in addition to paying all that money just to be there. When I was a student it was all I could do to afford airfare and hotel. I’m embarrassed when I think back on it–I wouldn’t skip a gift now!
Once when I was a bridesmaid and was told not to (my gift was doing everyone’s makeup, including the bride’s) and a few times when I was invited to distant acqauintances’ weddings and didn’t attend and didn’t feel like spending the money. Some invites have felt gift grabby.
I’ve made wedding cakes in lieu of gifts, and I’ve also provided the wine for the tables in lieu of gifts, but I’ve never not given anything.
@SamanthaLovesJames: I’ve skipped gift giving a couple of times when I was invited to weddings but didn’t attend. I also didn’t gift to a couple who had a destination wedding and then a party when they got back. I generally don’t think you should expect lots of gifts if you have a Destination Wedding, but I might have given one had I not received a mass email from the couple a week before the party with a link to their registry (most of the items were horribly expensive) and a subject line ‘please gift generously!’. They also told everybody in advance they’d be having a cash bar and a dollar dance (which is not a thing in the Uk) so to bring lots of money. I left before the dollar dance.
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