(Closed) Have you ever skipped on giving gift to bride and groom?

• somethingaquamarine
• 5 years ago

@SamanthaLovesJames:  Nope, I haven’t. I’ve always given a gift.

• jenilynevette
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014

I haven’t been to alot of weddings since I’ve been on my own [out of my parents house], but when I am invited, I do gift.

I would feel strange if I didn’t give something!

• kate_goat
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: February 2014

Yes because I was Bridesmaid or Best Man and had to pay $100 for hair and make up 🙂

• Lovemelovemyhorses
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: January 2014

Yes, FI’s dad and step mum had a very informal ceremony (one of her daughters wasn’t there, and one of his son’s wasn’t either, I think there was 5 of us). It was nice and all, but I honestly didn’t even think to give a gift because it was just like ‘let’s go to this person’s house, have a 5 minute ceremony, snap 5 pics on our phones and go home’.

If I had a re-do, I would give them a gift. I feel bad that I didn’t, it was the first wedding I went to as an adult and it didn’t even occur to me. In my defense, the reception was at a local resteraunt and you had to pay for your own meal, I see a lot of people vote not to give a gift if you pay for your dinner. I still feel bad though.

• Oncewasmarried2013
• 5 years ago

I always give a gift. It is so rude not too.

I am a dancer and performed at my friends wedding last year. She told me not to give her a gift but i still gave one anyway.

• Nic01
• 5 years ago

I hope I don’t ever forget!!

• mamadingdong
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: May 2018

@SamanthaLovesJames:  I spent $2k getting myself there and truly felt that was gift enough. I did give her a nice card. We talked about it so no biggie. 

• Jabberwocky
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Yes, but they were receptions where the guest pays to attend, so a gift isn’t expected.

• lealorali
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Never given a physical gift at a wedding (we do that at showers up here)- We give cash. I haven’t given a check for less than $100 (which typically barely covers your plate!).

• stillme
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: September 2010

I have, when I was younger. I think I was just completely clueless and didn’t realize you were supposed to give a gift in addition to paying all that money just to be there. When I was a student it was all I could do to afford airfare and hotel. I’m embarrassed when I think back on it–I wouldn’t skip a gift now!

• daybyday
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: November 2006

Once when I was a bridesmaid and was told not to (my gift was doing everyone’s makeup, including the bride’s) and a few times when I was invited to distant acqauintances’ weddings and didn’t attend and didn’t feel like spending the money. Some invites have felt gift grabby.

• FortiesFlare
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: June 2013

I’ve made wedding cakes in lieu of gifts, and I’ve also provided the wine for the tables in lieu of gifts, but I’ve never not given anything.

• BridieBea
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: December 2015

@SamanthaLovesJames:  I’ve skipped gift giving a couple of times when I was invited to weddings but didn’t attend. I also didn’t gift to a couple who had a destination wedding and then a party when they got back. I generally don’t think you should expect lots of gifts if you have a Destination Wedding, but I might have given one had I not received a mass email from the couple a week before the party with a link to their registry (most of the items were horribly expensive) and a subject line ‘please gift generously!’. They also told everybody in advance they’d be having a cash bar and a dollar dance (which is not a thing in the Uk) so to bring lots of money. I left before the dollar dance. 

• lanalnoco
• 5 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

I’ve always given a gift, even when I didn’t attend.