(Closed) Have you ever spent a night away from your SO because of a fight?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 62
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Helper bee

I’ve told my husband before that when he’s teasing me and goes a bit too far that his indian name is “sleeping on the couch tonight!”  (A play off of Dances with Wolves) and he knows to back off.

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

No, never, and it’s hard to imagine us being mad enough to sleep apart because of that, much less have someone actually leave and sleep in someone else’s house or a hotel.

I have slept on the couch or in the cot a few times (maybe once or twice a year) in the 4 years we’ve been together, but some of those were because we were both sooooo stressed about something (external to us as a couple) that we kept tossing and turning and keeping each other from getting to sleep, so the only way I could sleep was to go on the couch for a few hours– but when I’ve had to do that, I always went back to bed with him early in the morning and slept there for an hour or two. The times I’ve slept in the cot was when he was badly injured and on meds that made him snore SO loudly, and it was impossible for me to sleep next to him because of the snoring and the stress of him being hurt and in pain (and my moving around in the bed didn’t help matters, so it was better all around).

Post # 64
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hm, maybe once when we had just gotten together.. but that was 6 years ago. We havent really fought in a few years, now we bicker sometimes. I think maybe a few months ago, we bickered so much I took my pillow to the couch and he came and carried me back to bed. 🙂

Post # 66
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh yeah, for sure.  We tend to squabble at night because we work afternoons, and just get tired before things are settled, and then they’re forgotten by morning, because they’re usually stupid and shouldn’t have even been fights in the first place. 

But we sleep in separate beds often just for comfort/quiet purposes, so every night is a discussion about whether we’re going to sleep together or not, depending on when the other has to be back at work, so it’s not always that we’re too mad to sleep together, but more like it seems weird to have a discussion about our sleeping arrangements.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I’m just going to get this out of my system. I LOVE SLEEPING ON THE COUCH!!! Sadly the only time I get to sleep on it is if I wake up after he leaves for work.  I never sleep on the couch because of a fight.  He needs me in the bed to sleep soundly so he refuses to go to bed until we work it out.

I’ve only once stayed some where else to clear my head.  We weren’t fighting though and I already had made plans to go out of town during that time.  I just needed to clear my head about a couple things so being gone really helped.

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have lol. I dont believe in “dont go to bed angry” even though I didnt agree with it at first. But sometimes its late and things just cant be worked out or we dont even stay on topic when trying to resolve a fight. Once we wake up the next day we’re in a better mood and make up. Weve never left the house though. i guess it varies with everyone. 

Post # 69
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@OtterHalf:  We never sleep apart due to anger but I like sleeping on the couch, sometimes its the only place I can fall asleep! So to me sleeping on th couch is no big deal and not a sign of issues in our relationship.

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We rarely have major fights, and we’ve never had to sleep apart because of a fight.

Actually, once we had an argument before bed (he was a bit tipsy that night) and I couldn’t fall asleep because I was so wound up about it. He, on the other hand, fell asleep immediately and started snoring his head off. It made me SO irrationally mad that he could sleep like a baby while I was still stewing over the whole thing that I went to go sleep on the sofa before I succumbed to the urge to beat him with my pillow.

Sometimes (rarely, really) he comes home drunk and falls asleep on the sofa, and he is way too big for me to lug to the bedroom (I tried it once – wasn’t pretty, and it ended with him half on the bed, half on the floor, still snoring, and me having a hysterical fit of the giggles by myself).

Post # 71
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No way! We don’t have too many bad fights that last longer than an hour or so, but the one fight we had that wasn’t resolved before bed, we still slept in the same bed.

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I pretended to sleep in the guest room once but really just wanted him to come in and get me  He did. Weve never actually slept apart due to a fight. I wouldnt be able to sleep and neither would he

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Mrs. Honeybee:  +10000 I feel the same way.  Going to bed “angry” works for me bc in the morning I usually forget why I was upset in the first place.  If we stayed up trying to work it out, it will sometimes escalate bc we’re both cranky with each other and just want to go to bed

 

Post # 74
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No never, I would be way too upset! We hardly ever fight, and we always talk things out within a few hours. I’m really sensitive and don’t do well with open-ended arguments, even with other people. I’m really good at apologizing and wrapping things up, luckily this works well for us!

Post # 75
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

No way.  We never stay mad at each other long enough to sleep apart.  Bed is our favorite place, anyway.

Post # 76
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My mother always told me, never go to bed mad at eachother. We have never spent a night apart and I won’t let it happen!

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