Have you ever taken a “break” in your current relationship?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
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Honey bee

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autumnmarcella :  no, we have not taken a break. 

If you don’t mind me asking, what about himself is he “working on?”

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Honey bee

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autumnmarcella :  does he feel like you’re holding him back

from getting a good job?

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Buzzing bee

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autumnmarcella :  no way. I feel like if things ever reach a point where we need a “break”, that means that we cannot work through the problem together, therefore should not be together. What would be the point of the “break”? What is allowed on a “break”? Do you still have expectations of exclusivity and loyalty during said “break”? See—there are just too many gray areas. I wouldn’t be willing to deal with that, personally. I’m not one to enjoy partaking in the mental gymnastics required to navigate this sort of relationship—if you could even call it that?

 

In your case, it seems like he was trying to let you down easy by saying “it’s not you, it’s me” in a way. Looking for a job and bettering yourself financially doesn’t get easier outside of a relationship. Not saying that a relationship makes either of those things easier, but being committed to someone really doesn’t have jack shit to do with job hunting or saving money.

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Honey bee

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autumnmarcella :  yeah, like PP said it seems like he was just trying to let you down easy bee. I’m sorry 😐 

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Helper bee

No I have never had a break from my fiancé.

I would hope that we would lean on one another if either of us were struggling with internal or external issues. 

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Bumble bee
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autumnmarcella :  I don’t think I’d consider this a break. You don’t want to waste your time waiting around for someone to come back. Start moving on and live for yourself. Maybe he will come back and if he does and you haven’t met someone new and amazing then that’s wonderful. Just don’t wait around for him.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
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azf0019 :  ditto! This is along the same lines of waiting bees who have partner’s that don’t want to get married because they have to save for a FABULOUS ring she deserves tho they claim they really want to get married. It’s  copping out 101. OP that’s  a sorry excuse for a break and time and space is for astronauts, not mature relationships. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

No, and I’m sorry but I highly doubt anyone in a happy marriage “took a break”. Especially not for reasons like that.

Go get yourself a man who wouldn’t ever choose to live without you by his side.

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Blushing bee

I don’t believe in ‘breaks’. I think if you need a break to figure out if you want a relationship or need to work on yourself than I’m not waiting around.

 I have never taken a break from my relationship. I’ve been with my guy for nnearly 6 years. Back when we were younger and in the first year or two, I remember we had a conversation about our relationship and how it was going through a rough patch but we decided we didn’t want to give up and kept going and I’m so glad we did.

it seems like your guys used that excuse to break up with you and quite Frankly you deserve better And deserve a man that can grow with you.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
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Second every PP – “breaks” meant there’s a rift in your relationships so large you cannot work it out together, you need to be apart. 

Fiance and I have never had a break in 4 years. 

If you need a break from the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, then that’s not the person for you. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Nope, I can’t ever imagine getting back together with someone I’ve broken up with (i.e. taken a “break” with). I do know a few people who broke up/took a break and now are married or engaged. But I can’t tell you how happy they are in their relationships.. so I don’t know if that’s helpful.

I don’t think finding a good job or figuring out your career path is mutually exclusive with a relationship in the slightest, it sounds like a dumb excuse. I’m sorry bee, I think you should let this one go and find someone who can’t imagine their life without you. 

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