(Closed) Have you ever thought about not having a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’ve heard of it however.. make sure you won’t later regret your decision.. Maybe a small intimate wedding?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Yep!! When we first got engaged, that was the plan. We wanted to just elope to somewhere and not spend thousands of dollars, but…we started feeling guilty about our parents and some other close family not being able to be there, so it’s turned into a very intimate ceremony and slightly larger party. I still dream about just scrapping the whole thing and taking a vacation, but unfortunately it’s too late for that now! 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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oneinamillion :  I guess it depends on how much you want a wedding? I think anyone considering ditching the wedding should ask themselves if they’d regret it later. That being said not everyone dreams of a big production. Plenty of people know from the get-go it’s not their thing and opt to elope.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I was the OPPOSITE.

Never wanted a big wedding. Just wanted to elope. Then my partner proposed and boom I wanted a wedding lol 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I’m constantly having this thought too! Its really hard when im happy to elope, but SO wants a traditional wedding… As well as my family wanting traditional also… The costs are adding up… Ad id be happy to take off and just get married.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

We were paying for everything ourselves and decided on Vegas.  Our parents and siblings came.  We all hung out the night before and had the best time!!!  Wedding was less than $500 and we went on a 4 week honeymoon.  19yrs later and only regret was we didnt pay the $100 to get photos haha.  To this day my family says it was their favorite wedding.  

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

That’s me. I’m stalling on the planning because i don’t want a wedding. But i do want a day in a dresss where we say I do. But i don’t want to plan it and i definitely don’t care who shows up besides my parents because i hate being the center of attention.

will i regret it?  Not sure. 

Do i want to spend 10-30k on one day? Definitely not. 

So for now I’m just chilling waiting for divine intervention on what to do. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Me! Fi and I have discussed it multiple times, but it makes my mom so happy to help.me plan it and I love her and want her to be happy. Plus Fiance agrees with me, but in a way that makes me think that he actually wants a wedding. We’re both introverts, but I HATE being the center if any attention and I think he secretly likes it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

I would love to not have a wedding. Loooove it. But my fiance really wants some of his family there, he would like a pastor, blahblahblah, so I’m happy to do what he’d like within reason. He wants simple, small, even do a dry wedding to save money, which is cool by me.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

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oneinamillion :  We were always going to have a wedding. That’s the ceremony. Had our parents not generously offered to host and pay for a big reception we would absolutely not have felt responsible spending a lot of money. It would have been something quite small and intimate. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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oneinamillion :  Yep! That’s when my guest list was 125 and my bill climbed up to $30,000. I threatened to cancel everything. Instead, I scaled down and did an intimate ceremony for 25 people for less than $5000. Best decision ever. I would have regretted not having that day. It was more beautiful than I ever could have imagined. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yup! I really wanted to elope, but Fiance and family really wanted the traditional wedding… shrug 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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oneinamillion :  I think about it all the time. My fiancé says we should because he thinks I’ll regret it later. But I’m really not sure if I’m ready for the planning and expenses. I can get almost the same affect of a wedding (the dress, photos, cake, honeymoon, etc) if we were to do a courthouse wedding and it would be less expensive. I’m indifferent about it. And if I really want I could always have the big traditional wedding for a bow renewal. 

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