(Closed) Have you given your Fiance any tasks?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Have you given your Fiance any tasks?
    YES...we are in this together! : (44 votes)
    44 %
    NO...this is MY wedding : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Kind of...but I am doing most of the work : (53 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
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    1096 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My fiance has been very involved. He helped me choose the color of the bridesmaid dresses, he put together the list of songs for our DJ, he looks at cake designs and invitations with me and helped me design the save the dates. He’s been very involved and it has been wonderful.

    Post # 4
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    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @sit1010: Same here. We are definitely planning this together. We even go to the Michaels together when they are having sales. He has been suck a big help that I won’t need to ask any of my bridesmaids for help, lol… Not that I was going to ask them but they keep asking ME can they do something, lol… Too funny!

    Post # 5
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    785 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ve given him tasks that he really cares about or that directly affect him.  For example, it was his responsibility to call about food and alcohol; we both put in the same amount of work researching for our honeymoon; he collected addresses from his family and friends; he ordered our rings once we’d picked them; he asked his cousin to be the flower girl; he booked our DJ; we worked together making the favors; etc.

    I’ll admit I’ve really done most of the work, and a lot of the time it’s kind of like pulling teeth to get him to do something (“But why do I have to do it now?  We have TONS of time!”) but I really am glad that he’s helped as much as he has!  He’s a wonderful Fiance 🙂

    Post # 7
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    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    He was very helpful!

    He was responsible for choosing the ties and gifts we got for the groomsmen, for putting together the playlist and no-play list for the DJ, for booking the trolley and the wedding night suite, and coordinating with his mom on the rehearsal.  He also helped with tastings, site visits, and chose his own tuxedo.  it took a lot of little things off my plate, and he was involved in all the major decisions too (aside from flowers, which he cared less about).

    Post # 8
    Member
    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I keep trying but it keeps not getting done.  I don’t think he understands the whole task.   For example, I gave him invitations.  He found some we liked and ordered a sample and then was done.   Umm, wait.  You have to figure out how we are going to word it, figure out how many we need to order, pick the final style and paper oh and actual ORDER them.   So in the end I’ll end doing all those last tasks. 

    Post # 9
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    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We are definitely in it together and he’s been very involved, but I voted for “kind of”. I have way more time and way more opinions, so I have taken on the bulk of the planning. He told me what was important to him (band, open bar, etc) and I made a lot of vendor contacts and narrowed it down for a few for him to pick from. I will be the first to admit I’m kind of a control freak, but we’ve been making the major decisions together!

    Post # 10
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Yea, I’ve given him things he cares more about. Music, drinks, honeymoon (he planned the whole thing!). He helped with the guys clothes and I run the rest past him.

    Post # 12
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    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    He’s sending the checks for all the deposits!!!  hahahaha!

    All the real “planning” is all done by me.  But that’s because we’re long distance right now and the wedding location is where I’m at. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    671 posts
    Busy bee

    Fortunately, Fiance is really good with tasks. I asked him to design a lot of our stationary.. (which i refine of course) and he has done a great job! He will also be checking out the reception venues alone.. as he will be going to our wedding state for work

    Post # 14
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My Fiance has pretty much all of the “base” items and I have all of the creative stuff

    He has

    • Food/Drinks/Alcohol
    • Tent, Tables, Chairs, Arbor
    • Photography
    • DJ

    I have

    • Paper Products (Invites, Program Fans, Table Numbers, Favor Bags/tags)
    • Decorations
    • Flowers
    • Cake

    We run everything past each other and so far, we are right on track. 

    Post # 15
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    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I’ve given him a few tasks like:

    Ask your mom for the missing addresses that we need.

    Research honeymoon places/prices.

    Figure out what you want to wear.

    Most of these things were things he wanted to do and offered without me even asking 🙂 But he has little to no time, so I actually ended up helping him with them all. We decided most things together. My job is to keep him informed before/after I decide anything so he can have a say as well. It’s been working out beautifully! I don’t really care about planning, but since it has to get done (and I have the most time) I’m doing most of it.

    Post # 16
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    ok so I answered NO, this is my wedding but lmao I didn’t mean it the way the poll sounds lol. My fi isn’t interested in doing any of it. So I am kinda forced to do it all myself. But I am trying really hard to make our wedding his special day too. He just doesn’t care about it as long as everyone has a good time, we don’t spend much money and he gets to marry me lol

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