(Closed) Have you given your Fiance any tasks?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Have you given your Fiance any tasks?

    YES...we are in this together!

    NO...this is MY wedding

    Kind of...but I am doing most of the work

  • Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    My Fiance is in charge of the food (when the time comes), getting his guys on board for the wedding (already done, lol), and deciding on the wording for the invites (gotta annoy him about that), and the drink mixes (gotta annoy him about that, too).  

    For the most part, I’m doing the most work, but he’s gonna have the hard part of doing the food!

    Oh, and he also has been in charge of asking certain people to do certain things for the wedding.  ๐Ÿ™‚  And he’s gonna also be helping with the emailing/facebook parts of it, too. 

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I am doing/did 99% of everything myself because I am type A, and he trusts my judgment. Also, almost everthing is DIY, and I also have connections to vendors that he doesn’t even have a clue about. I did include him in the final say with everything and he drove me to Michaels, Joanns, and anywhere else that I needed to go.

    Post # 21
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    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Well let’s see.  He’s helped with a few menial tasks for our DIY projects.  (Like pulling the envelopes off the printer so they don’t smudge each other… but I set the printer up appropriately for the envelope size, etc.)

    He’s also in charge of all the groomsmen gifts, which he’s started on, and picking out tuxes, which he hasn’t.  I tried to delegate the honeymoon to him, but it was really more of a joint effort/decision.  And I did half the booking since my credit card limit is higher for the deposit.

    Um… other than that, he started out with mandating “Anything but purple” for our colors, as 2 other close friend couples both used it for their weddings.  Mostly it’s me coming up with ideas and giving him veto power.

    Post # 22
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    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I really only asked my Fiance to go get fitted and choose tuxes for him and the groomsmen. He also has the task of choosing the ushers and the mc. Other than that he doesnt really have to much to do.

    Post # 23
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    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    He’s been more than willing to help when I’ve asked him for something.. but he genuinely doesn’t have an opinion one way or the other on most things.

    “Which ones the cheapest?” has been his input lately.

    He doesn’t understand why we have to change the water bottle labels, why I’m having so much trouble finding “the perfect lace” for the bouquets, why the food has to have labels, or why they can’t wear the ties and socks that come with the tux. 

    He thinks all the hair pieces, shades of pink, and navy flats look the same. ๐Ÿ™‚

    That’s not to say he won’t smile and jump in when I give him a task.. but so far, the only thing he’s really been *excited* about, was the food and cake tasting!

     

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I couldn’t really answer this one, because I didn’t “give” my wife any tasks.  We just kind of talked together and figured out who was doing what.  She ended up creating our websites, designing our paper products, making our cake, selecting our reading, writing our ceremony, picking our music for the ceremony and first dance, making a CD of the ceremony music, and finding the house we rented for ourselves and all our guests.

    Post # 26
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    The only things I give him are the stuff I don’t want done! He is not great at the follow through on things lol.  For example, his mom really wants us to have a videographer and I don’t want one. So rather than fighting about it, I just told him to take care of it, knowing it won’t get done.

    Of course I did ask him to handle the entire honeymoon. But that I know he has a vested interest in!

    Post # 28
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    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My husband was responsible for the stuff that related to him (picking groomsmen, picking his and their outfits, picking their gifts), and doing our ipod playlists (which was a huge job but he rocked it!). 

    We also had joint responsibilities when it came to the big stuff like venue and food. 

    Post # 29
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We still have a ways to go so I haven’t given him much yet – but I know for sure that I want him to pick the DJ and our honeymoon (he’s looking at all-inclusives in Europe, win!) and have also asked him to start thinking about our first dance song.  Other details like gifts for groomsmen, addresses for his family, his attire… those’ll be his job too.  We’re doing cake and catering tastings together too, of course ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 31
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Can I say “We are in this together” but “I am doing most of the work”? He has input in every detail when we make the final decisions. But I am the one who plans those up to that final point most of the time. He helps a lot. And he has a lot of tasks and does them willingly when I ask him to. But he admits he is clueless on everything that needs to get done and when and since I already have a thimb on that he will rely one me for it!

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