(Closed) Have you had to use the phrase “This is MY wedding!”

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve never used it (but I will, promise). Anyways you’re in your right to use that phrase when someone, especially your mom, is acting like that, SO rude of her, it is YOUR wedding.

Post # 4
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes..I actually had to yell it at my Future Mother-In-Law. Stupid woman shoving her nose where it didnt belong…

Post # 5
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Haha girl if my mom did what your mom was doing she would have been hearing that phrase A LOT!! Bless your heart, you seem like a very patient person! Good for you for standing up for yourself and telling her to BACK OFF!!!

I have not had to use this phrase (yet), but I will tell you a funny dream I had. It’s a running joke in my family that my little brother is the center of attention. One night I had a dream that Fiance and I had to meet with some vendors for the wedding. We were taking my bro somewhere before the meetings. He was late and when I called him to ask where he was he said he was waiting for his SEVEN friends because we had to drive them too. I started flipping out telling him that we didn’t have enough room and he was making us late for our appointments. I started screaming, “THIS ISN’T ABOUT YOU!! THIS IS ABOUT ME! AND MY WEDDING!!”

Ah, bride brain. We all had a good laugh… because it totally could have happened in real life…. I’m known as the quiet one and seriously, my brother is an attention whore!!

Post # 6
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The day before the wedding…lol

I have a step dad and a dad who I had to navigate so they didnt clash and compete, but they decided to tackle a decorating project together, and I ended up waiting until the argueing came to a silent pause, and I just say. “nope, neither way. My wedding” ended up getting them a little tiffy, but I kept them from aruging and honestly neithers ideas was what I wanted. Two birds one stone.

Post # 7
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ugh, I have.

Didn’t want to, but people just end up shoving their opinions and noses all over through wedding planning.

Post # 8
3204 posts
Sugar bee

Yes a few times. And so far it is like 10 other pushy people- me 0. I just decided that the little things don’t matter as much as the fact that I want to stay as minimally stressed as possible and enjoy the whole ride, not all the fights along the way. Just trying to stay flexible!

Post # 9
7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Not yet, but I definitely reserve the right to. 

Post # 10
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh yea. Way more times than I can count. Mostly on my Future Mother-In-Law. She’s super pushy so I just lay it all out to her. We have VERY similar personalities so we get each other and I tell her to butt out it’s not her wedding. She laughs it off and says okay and the next day she’s back to trying to plan something else.

I have also had to use it on my older sister, also my Maid/Matron of Honor. She kept trying to pick out my colors, my wedding gown AND my bridesmaid dresses. She wanted $500 dresses for my girls, and I had to tell her that when she gets married, she can plan it her way but this is MY WEDDING and I will plan it the way I want.

And I agree, it totally sounds bridezilla-ish but sometimes there is just no other way to get it through to their heads that it really is your wedding.


Post # 11
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t directly say but I univited everyone until they realized this is our wedding (mine and SO) and not theirs lol. I know it sounds harsh but from how everyone was acting they deserved it!

Post # 12
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh yes!  My mom has been totally crazy since we got engaged.  I love her dearly, but I often feel like she is planning the wedding she never had.  My mom and dad are still married, but they had a very simple wedding as she was pregnant with myself and my twin brother at the time.  I hate saying it, but I’ve had to remind her more than once that this is in fact MY wedding.  Then, she likes to throw in the “well, I’m paying for it” card.  Frustrating.

Post # 13
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can almost guarantee that this phrase WILL come out of my mouth at some point. Only because I am way too nice about everything and I’m pretty sure it will be the only way to really get what I have envisioned for my day!

Post # 14
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I haven’t yet! Will our hero make it to her wedding in two weeks without uttering these words? We shall see! I’ve come close to saying it to a friend and even to my groom-zilla of a Fiance. I may actually be saying this lovely phrase on my wedding day itself…probably to my parents who will be disappointed that the ceremony isn’t religious enough, or to some jackass that gives some backhanded remark about my dress, ring, cake, colors, whatever. I am ready to smile politely, sip my drink, and tell them to stick their unrequested opinion back from whence it came. 😉 (Sorry for the grr in this…can ya tell I just can’t wait for the planning to be OVER?! ACK!)

Post # 15
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I didn’t have to, yet. My Maid/Matron of Honor, BM’s and Flower Girl were out dress hunting last evening. Had a great time. Maid/Matron of Honor is future sil, BM’s are my 23 and 21 yo daughters. Flower Girl is my 20 yo daughter. What the hell, she never had the opportunity as a child and wanted the job, I don’t care. Our Ring Man is MOH’s 16 yo son, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. He was so happy when I asked him.


Anyway, the girls and I were all out last evening, and one of them asked why I was picking the certain colors that I wanted, and my Maid/Matron of Honor says… “this is your mothers wedding, it will be the colors and style the way she wants it. When you girls get married, your party will wear the colors and styles you would like them to wear”. She went on to say “it is one night in your mom’s life that the party is all about her, go with it, have fun and be happy”. I love her, this is why she is my Maid/Matron of Honor.

By The Way… we did find the girls dresses last night, my Maid/Matron of Honor dress is at David’s Bridal and my daughters really didn’t find anything they were crazy about. We then hit Group USA, Saks off 5th Avenue and then Burlington Coat Factory. OMG… My 23 and 21 yo daughters now own matching, perfect fit, perfect color Bridesmaid Dresses; my 20 yo daughter has an absolutely perfect Flower Girl dress in the color I was looking at for her. Total for the 3 dresses $130, including tax.

Oh and my FI’s grandchildren will be carrying the Here Comes The Bride banners, and we picked up the dresses for the 10 and 9 yo girls matching and perfect size, only $17 each. Now I have to dress the 13 yo bonus gd and the 5 yo bonus gs.

I just can not believe it. My dress is $549 at David’s but being made by Dressilyme instead. Now I will have my whole wedding party dressed for less than that, including my dress. Only thing left to work on it the pants/shirts/ties for the guys. That will be easy though, the guys are wearing Black Jeans that I will not give them until the rehearsal dinner, a nice button up oxford style shirt, and a tie that FI’s mom is making out of mossyoak fabric. She is also making thier mossyoak back vests.

I am just so excited about this.

Post # 16
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am 41 years old and actually had to pull this one out fairly early on in planning process with my mother!! lol!!  

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