Post # 1
the other day my wedding came up at the office.
My coworkers and my boss asked something about kids at the wedding, I explained we were opting out of inviting children as we are limiting our numbers, our venue is in the middle of nowhere, and we really only have 3 children in our lives we are close to (all 3 of which are flower girls/ the ring bearer).
They were shocked. I got bombarded with ” you’re going to tell your guests not to BRING THEIR CHILDREN?”, bulging eyes and shaking heads (not one person in the room has a child yet) and one of them said ” you’re a terrible person!” They said they have never heard of child free weddings.
I have been to weddings. I have been in weddings. Across the country. Only once did I see children behaving. Several of my bride friends say if they could do it again, they’d go childless For their weddings. I’m not saying its always the kids fault, as often it was the parents not taking charge as well.
Is this news to anyone else? How can an office full of people never have heard of this.
Post # 3
We had one. It caused drama. But I don’t care, and am glad we stuck with it. If you search through the boards you’ll see hundreds of other brides making the same decision. It’s very common nowadays.
Post # 4
I’m surprised when people haven’t heard of it too. We had an adults only ceremony and reception and it was GREAT. Our venue wasn’t kid friendly anyways, but everything worked out for the best! The people who did have kids were relieved to have a night out!
Post # 5
this is very common. where do you work that all of them haven’t heard of this?? so bizzare
Post # 6
We had one and cause no drama. We didnt even have any kids in the wedding party. But then again none of our siblings have kids so it made it easier. Friends left their kids at home.
Post # 7
Of course i’ve heard of child-less weddings, I had one! Lots and lots of people have them.
Post # 8
I have never been to a wedding with children. So yes, I have heard of them 🙂
Post # 9
Most people I know prefer child-less weddings…
Post # 10
I’ve honestly not heard of them really before WB. Where I grew up weddings are normally very family oriented affairs, including children.
Post # 11
We had children at our ceremony but none at the reception. It caused some tension at first but honestly I wouldn’t have changed it for the world!
Post # 12
We aren’t having any children other than the two ring bearers at the wedding. Most of our guests are happy about it – they look forward to a night out without their kids!
Post # 13
My friends had a child-free wedding basically for the sake of keeping their guest count down. Regarding misbehaving children, I can definitely see why people would prefer to leave children out of it. I really don’t see why people would be offended, especially if it applies to everyone’s children and not just to a few people’s bratty kids! Your co-workers are crazy :p
Post # 14
Never ever even knew that people did not invite children to weddings until WB. Didn’t even know people did that! I can’t imagine not having children as part of the celebration.
Post # 15
We aren’t having kids at the wedding, and honestly, I don’t care who it bothers. It’s my wedding. I don’t want screaming kids. And to be fair, it only affected 2-3 of my guests.
Post # 16
I see a marriage as the joining of two families, and that includes children. We had my cousin’s young girls, ages 7 and 8, several pre-teens (cousins’ children and my nephew) and several teen agers. My step daughter opted not to bring her 4 boys so her husband and she could have a mini vacation and my son in laws two children, 3 and newborn could not be there because their mom had pneumonia, and they were truely missed.