Post # 1
I just got off the phone with my dad, and he was saying that my brother may be getting engaged in the next few months (apparently things are going well with his new gf! YAY! I like her a lot :D), and I jokingly asked him, “Can you and Mom afford another wedding after ours?”
His response was, “Well, traditionally the groom’s family just has to cover the alcohol bill.”
Whaaaaa? I’ve never heard that. And I’m on WB alllllll the time. Like, an obscene number of hours every day. I think it’s really interesting how his perception and mine are so different.
So I’m curious – anyone heard of that “tradition” that my dad claims is the norm right now?
Post # 4
I’ve never heard that. I didn’t think traditionally speaking though that the grooms family paid for anything but the rehearsal dinner? I’m not sure though…nowadays most of the typical traditions don’t really apply.
Post # 5
The only thing I have ever heard is that the bride’s parents are suposed to pay for the wedding. (This isn’t my opinion, I am just saying that is the only thing money-related I have heard of being considered a tradition.) Except the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
I think now a days, anything can be done. But I have heard that the grooms family pays for alcohol, rehearsal dinner and honeymoon.
Post # 7
It used to be the grooms family covered the rehearsal dinner, the flowers and the alcohol…. but these days things get split up every which way.
Post # 8
@HisIrishPrincess: I agree here, my FI’s family is covering the alcohol bill, as well as the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 9
That is the tradition I’ve heard but my fiance and I aren’t following it. Though his mom refuses to contribute “because its tradition for the bride’s parents to pay”… load of bull in 2011, if you ask me.. I’m not coming with a dowry
Post # 10
I think your dad may just be confused. I’ve only heard that it is Tradition for the groom’s folks to pay for the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 11
@ddw: I’ve heard of it. The brides family pays for everything and the grooms family pays for the alcohol and rehearsal dinner. Of course, this is when women didn’t go to college and just got married right after high school.
Post # 12
I haven’t heard about the alcohol being what the grooms parents pay for but traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding and the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon. That doens’t mean that is how is should or has to be.
Post # 13
Many moons ago the rehearsal dinner and bar tab were picked up by the groom’s family. At least here in Wisconsin. Times have changed and I think the days of set roles have also.
Post # 14
Ditto what HotPinkPopTart said…
Post # 15
never heard of it- only have heard of the rehearsal dinner!!
Post # 16
Traditionally: the groom’s family pays for the rehersal dinner & bar tab, the groom pays for the bridal flowers and honeymoon, and the bride’s family pays for everything else.
Y’know, that whole dowry thing.