(Closed) Have you made any big wedding compromises with FI?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We were not on the same page at all.

I imagined a very small beach wedding, Mexico, Puerto Rico, etc. 

Instead, we are having a formal, winter wedding, and inviting 400 of our “nearest and dearest.”

Beyond that, he is pretty flexible.  LOL.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Fiance and I wanted almost opposite weddings but since my family is paying and his is not contributing at all (other than to the rehersal dinner), he didn’t get much say.  That is pretty much all there is to say about that.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my fi wanted the big, traditional wedding. my dream wedding is destination, just our immediate families. we comprimised, small ceremony and a bigger dinner after in our home town. the rest is just little things that don’t matter as much.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We’ve both made compromises.  I originally wanted a vintage-style Vegas elopement (funny that a wedding planner wanted no part in a big to-do); he wanted to invite everyone under the sun (easy to say when he’s not paying for it).  To this day less than a month from our big day, he’s still trying to convince me to invite more people. We settled on a small (75ish) wedding in the city with some vintage-esque elements.  He was able to invite his 8zillion family members, but we knew the majority wouldn’t come.

I was ambivalent about date, and he really wanted January – so I let him have that. 

He was sooooo anti-videographer.  I originally was willing to compromise on this, but at the last minute (less than a month to go) I decided I MUST have a same-day-edit.  That was a bit of a battle – Fiance is very shy.  I have to admit, I cried to get that one. 

In an ideal world, both partners would have the same vision and agree on everything…but this is real life.  Differences in opinion are so very likely to occur… Wedding planning is definitely a great way to get your feet wet for a lifetime of compromises and joint decision making!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Miss Meepsie, I am an event coordinator, and I want NOTHING to do with planning of my own.

Post # 8
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, we decided on having a religious ceremony which neither of us were thrilled about, but did it to please family and now are totally happy about our decision. We are also compromising on the honeymoon. We can afford to take an extravagant vacation in Europe, but in order to save to buy a house, Fiance is insisting we do something with a smaller budget like Mexico.

Other than that, nothing very big, he’s not too opinionated about flowers or decor or anything. He will be deciding on the music and we both are happy with pretty much any food.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My biggest compromise, honestly, is not using blue as a wedding color.

And that kind of feels big. I love blue. My engagement ring is a blue sapphire.

Other than that, the growth in guest list happned organically, and we both arrived together at a lot of our non-traditional plans, picking the location was easy, etc. I’ve just been surprised at how much he shows flashes of concern about style. If I want to show him pictures, he doesn’t care usually. Other times, he expresses strong opinions or a real sense of vision.

Post # 10
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@ Lindsay – it’s funny, isn’t it?  I find it’s that way for a lot of planners I know.  For me it was more for budgetary reasons – we’re house shopping.  I’m thoroughly enjoying all of the planning & even if we went to Vegas and eloped, I’d still have planned the hell out of it!  Tongue out  It can get overwhelming sometimes though – having seen soooooo much and knowing what’s trendy and what’s not has definitely affected my decisionmaking process.  Though my profession has saved me countless hours of debating/decisionmaking/vendor interviewing! 

 

@ monitajb – what are your colors?  there’s got to be a way you can work a little bit of blue in there! 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

He wanted a beach wedding in NJ with a huge guest list. I wanted a small church wedding in MI. We compromised by having a beach wedding here in FL where we live, and by keeping the guest list relatively small.

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