(Closed) have you or your spouse's finances changed since you've been married?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

DH and I have been together for 10 years, married for 3.5, so our finances have gone from:

1) Students – $0

2) Entry Level Jobs – $Not much

3) DH Starting His Own Business – $DH0, Me $Not Much

4) DH’s business becoming successful and me growing my career to a comfortable place – $Great!

So yes, our financial situation has changed significantly, especially since we’ve been married.

Post # 18
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I lost my job, so yeah, big financial change.

Post # 19
6352 posts
Bee Keeper

We aren’t married yet, but we already see fianances as mutual. I have slo-o-o-o-wed his spending way down. I’m naturally a saver and he’s naturally a spender…but he WANTS to be a saver…so he’s very happy with this change in himself ๐Ÿ™‚

As for the (long-ass, still-going) recession, that didn’t really help our fianances ๐Ÿ˜› But we’re doing ok.

Post # 20
15399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No, just our usual yearly raises.  We’re also 28 and 33, and working 5-10 years at the same company so not really expecting any major changes.

Post # 21
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

DH has gotten annual raises and a promotion.

I made a career change where I took an almost 50% pay cut.

DH’s most recent raise gets us back up to right about what we made combined when we first moved in together.

Post # 23
7641 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

DH is a teacher, and since their contracts are up he may or may not get a raise this year (he better because those stingy bastards stung him last time).

I got a new job once we got married, so I make $10 an hour more than what I made before we were married.

Post # 24
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

we have found that combining our finances has been SUPER motivating…when we got married we got joint accounts, and closed mine. The banker told us about the savings account limit (like we could fill it to a certain point then need to look into another kind of placement) and when saying this it was like ‘but, that will be a long way off until it’s maxed etc’. However, we’ve proved him wrong and here we are at our 1 year anniversary and our savings account is bursting at the seams, wooo! I wasn,t a big spender, nor was he, but together we help each other be super frugal. It also helps we have very low rent, so we are able to save a lot more than 50 percent of our income (i’m bad at percentages…). 

Post # 25
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes he got a better paying job, and I also did myself! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 26
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes! Since we got married, we’ve moved from Texas to NY. I went from being a part-time undergrad and full-time mall employee to being a full-time grad-student and part-time retail chain employee. DH went from part-time mall employee and full-time undergrad to working full-time at a restaurant, plus part-time at the same retail chain as me, and continuing to do one weekend a month with the National Guard. We were also living with our parents in Texas, while we’re living on our own (with a roommate), with no financial support from them, in NY.

Post # 27
14 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

We have both gotten raises, which has been nice. But, as is always the case, our spending habits have increased as well… bought a time share, both joined crossfit at $200/month each .. etc.


Overall, I save significantly less and his habits haven’t really changed that much. But I’m SUPER OCD about money (check capitalone website every day), so for the good of our marriage, I’m NOT hounding him about making sure he is paying everything on time. He knows that if he wants to sell our house and buy a new one next year (which he really really wants to do) that he needs to stay on top of keeping his credit score up.


This is keeping him from feeeling like I don’t trust him to be responsible, and me from feeling like his mother ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 28
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

A lot has changed and will still change in the next year.

When we married I had just been laid off so only he was working. Then we were both working, He got a raise and a second unexpected bonus which was nice.

Now we are moving to a new state with lower cost of living for his job. He got a raise with the move, but am likely going to have to quit my job if they dont let me work removetly. If they dont, I cant really look for full time work until after the baby is born.     so

I may or may not have a full time or part time or no job from abour July to November when baby is born. then Ill start looking/working again in about Jan/Feb. Ill decide then if it will be a full time traditional job or see if I can find part time work. In my field I may be able to swing that.

Post # 29
1576 posts
Bumble bee

Ours changed drastically. When we got married, he was still in college, and I was working full-time, but my job only paid 10.50/hr so it wasn’t much. We were pretty darned broke. Once he graduated, he started a great IT consulting job, so our income over tripled! He actually started that job on our 1 year anniversary! ๐Ÿ™‚ Then we moved for his job, and I didn’t work for 1/2 a year, but had landed a job with the same company I worked for before since they were opening a new clinic where we moved. I ended up getting a $2/hr raise because of the cost-of-living difference, which was nice. I will have our baby around our 2nd anniversary, at which point he’ll be the only one working again.

We also have more debt now, since we both pay on our student loans now, and we bought a car together and are in the process of buying a home too. But we are SO much better off than we were before/when we got married!

Post # 31
6109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@rozzy:  Since we have been married (7 months ago), I finally got my raise (17%!) which was a result of me going back for my Master’s degree in engineering.  It took a few months for the paperwork to go through, but it finally happened this pay check and I graduated last May. 

That will probably be my last big raise of my career however.

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