Post # 1
So I read Blink a while ago…and I keep meaning to look up the research that he talks about that some psychologist (I can’t remember who) can analyze couples via a conversation and predict with pretty good accuracy whether they’ll last. For those that read it, if you remember this better than me totally jump in. Anyway, my question is…if you knew there was a way to be assessed for the longevity of your relationship, would you do it?
I don’t know if I would. If they’re wrong…you have that in your head and it might become a self-fullfilling prophecy. If you know you could learn how to change your interaction styles to improve your relationship.
What do you think?
Post # 3
so I looked quick on wiki and this is what it says:
John Gottman is a researcher well known for his work on marital relationships. His work is explored in Blink. After analyzing a normal conversation between a husband and wife for an hour, Gottman can predict whether that couple will be married in 15 years with 95% accuracy. If he analyzes them for 15 minutes, his accuracy diminishes to 90%. This is one example of when “thin slicing” works.
Post # 4
I would and will anever do it!!! I have to read that book – what else does it say, HAHAHAHAHAH
Post # 5
Blink was a great book! I don’t really think it would matter either way for us if we knew or not, but I agree, it might be problematic (self-fulfilling prophecy) for others. I thought that the characteristics that he shared were predictive enough… I can’t remember what they were, but I think one of them was that belittling your partner was very very bad.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Claxton Farm
Yes! Mr. Snow and I joke all the time about contempt! (That was the one characteristic that seemed to have causal relationship to relationship success…speaking to your partner with contempt)
I don’t know…I think we would go through it. I don’t think those kinds of assessments are relationship death sentences and might give us insight into areas we’re too involved to see.
Post # 7
I just thought it was interesting because they look at the couple’s microexpressions… so its not things that you would necessarily pick up on…