Post # 1
I’m already stuck between having a head table or sweetheart table or non of the above. All options have become complicated when I even attempt to draft out a seating plan… This led me to the other idea – what if we did a head table and have the significant other sit across from the Bridesmaid or Best Man or GM??? Has anyone ever seen this before? Obviously it would have to be decorated in a certain way so that it accomodates someone on the other side.
Post # 3
I think it would be a little awkward in pictures. And the single people might look a little bizarre by themselves, like singled out.
Post # 4
I agree with Lindsay12.31.2010 – what you are describing would be a little awkward. If you don’t want bridal party members to be separated from significant others, maybe you could kind of combine a sweetheart table and a head table.
You could put a small table in the center for you and your Fiance and then have two banquet tables on either side of the small center table where your bridal party and their SOs could sit (all on one side of the table though, facing other guests). I don’t know how big your bridal party is but then single people don’t feel so “singled out” and SOs can sit with one another.
Post # 5
Ok – so I don’t know if what I was describing is really clear, so I tried to model it in paint (I know – I’m sooo artistic – lol). Hopefully this helps!
Post # 6
That would work fine. My neice did hers that way but with round tables.
Post # 7
LOL! I never really envisioned the awkwardness but I suppose you are right. Maybe that’s why it’s never been done before… FutureKMM, I love that idea!! I have 8 on each side. 4 of the 8 are single. With SOs, it would be a total of 24 and that’s a lot of people! Also, I’d have to consult with our banquet hall to see if they provide two long tables and such a small table. I’ll figure it out one of these days, I’ve got time. Thanks for you input!
Post # 8
I think this could actually work out fine, so long as you didn’t try to put all of the wedding party on one side, dates on the other. If you just had a double sided head table combining dates and wedding party it would work too. That way single party members can sit across from each other.
If you are dead set on having the wedding party on one side of the table, either ask them to bite the bullet and sit away from their SO for the few minutes of eating/toasts or do a sweetheart table and forget the whole thing.
Post # 9
WOW future KMM, thanks for the illustration!
Post # 10
I think that would work fine. I’m not really a fan of sweetheart tables (I think it’s weird to single out the bride and groom when they’re having a huge party) – but I like your option better because it seems less separated.
Post # 11
Ha! I could have written this post myself, since this is exactly what i wanted to do. Fiance talked me out of it though b/c he thinks it’s “weird”. Instead we’re doing something really similar though. We’re having a short rectangular table flanked on both sides by 5′ round tables. Fiance and I, plus our maid of honor and best man will be at the rectangular table, and we’ll be directly surrounded on both sides by our wedding party, their significant others, and in one case, their kid. I just hate the idea of splitting up the wedding party and their dates. It seems totally unfair…
Post # 12
If the wedding date you have posted is right.. I think you are planning this waaaay too early. The relationship status of the bridal party is very likely to change between now and then.
That being said, I would suggest a sweetheart table in your situation. We had a big bridal party and we didn’t want a huge table at the front of the room, but we didn’t want to separate our bridal party from their dates. So we just seated the bridal party with people they knew out at the regular tables among the other guests. My husband and I both agree that the 20 minutes we had at the sweetheart table where it was just us was our favorite part of the day.
Post # 13
Personally, if Fiance were part of a wedding party and I had to sit at the head table with him I’d feel really uncomfortable. I mean, it’s always nice to sit with your SO, but I’d say either do the traditional head table with the SO’s at their own table (or with other friends) or do your sweetheart table. Head tables in general make me uncomfortable because I don’t like the idea of everyone in a room watching me eat, so if I got to a wedding and found out I was sitting at the head, I’d feel really weird!
Post # 14
I like it! I went to a wedding where the bridal party plus guests sat at a large oval table in the middle of the room. It was pretty cool. It was also nice of the bride and groom because I didn’t know one other person at the wedding besides my (then) Boyfriend or Best Friend.
Post # 15
I am planning on doing that exact thing. We are trying to keep the head table low key (ie,not raised, in the middle of the room) so we will have the SO’s at our table with us. I know if I went to a wedding and didn’t get to sit with my FI/husband I would feel less comfortable.