(Closed) Have you seen your man cry?

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Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Stonehouse at Stirling Ridge

Ive seen DH cry a handful of times. Once over an argument we had in high school over an ex who kept contacting me (I was dumb and young but we moved on) Another time when his parents were on the verge of a divorce. Also when my aunt who lived with me passed away… he would see her almost everyday and her passing really hit us both hard …. And finally during our first look and as I was walking down the aisle <3

 

My favorite are his happy tears, I imagine he’ll cry when we TTC/have our first child. 

Post # 62
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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socalgirl1689:  Not yet, actually.

A guy I dated about a decade ago (seems like yesterday) cried often. I had never seen a guy get so blubbery over things, and it mainly pertained to our relationship.

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee

Only a couple of times. When his dog died. He teared up at our wedding. And twice, drunk, right before the holidays when he was missing his family (both of our families live far away so we don’t often get to be with them on holidays or special occasions – very sad). 

Post # 64
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Sugar bee

When I told him I had to undergo chemo.

Post # 65
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Blushing bee

Yes. We lost our dog. Well he was my dog of 9 years that I brought into our relationship. The best dog I could have ever hoped for, my SO fell in love at first site. He actually met my dog before we started dating. We lost him a year ago this coming up January 3rd. He held it together because I was a mess, but once we got home to our empty house, with no excited dog to greet us, and the site of his toys and bed, my SO lost it. Wailing. On the ground by Baxters bed. It was heartbreaking. For both of us. We both lost our best friend that day. 

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’ve seen DH cry a few times.

Obviously at our wedding as I was walking down the aisle.  He wasn’t blubbering but had tears streaking down his face and he walked halfway up the aisle to meet me and my dad.  It was spontaneous on his part and my dad gave him a huge hug.  I don’t think there was a dry eye in the church!

He cried once when we had a huge dumb fight earlier this year.  We don’t fight very often and he was feeling insecure about my ex for some reason.

DH was in the hospital a few months ago in intensive care for a few days (long story) and he cried when he woke up and saw me sitting next to him holding his hand.  I was so scared and I think seeing me so upset caused him to cry.

The most recent when I was brought to the ER.  I had a miscarriage and we didn’t know I was pregnant.  He cried when they told him.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Cambridge Mill

Yes, but not in a long time. He has had a hard last 2 years with family issues (parents seperated, father having bypass surgery and not doing well, etc.) and he broke down one night after having a few drinks. I have no problem with him crying at all but he rarely does. He teared up just a little when he proposed 🙂

Post # 68
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

All the time. My husband is a softie.

Post # 69
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, but it takes a lot for him to cry. He cried when we talked about breaking up on our 4th dating anniversary; he cried a few times in the midst of his most recent depression recurrence. He also says he cried after dropping me off at home the day before I started college (and thus started an LDR).

Usually, if DH is upset, he just gets quiet and needs to be left alone for a little bit until he’s ready to tell me what’s going on.

Post # 70
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Helper bee

I’ve never seen him cry but I know he’s cried since we’ve been together. Specifically, when his grandmother died. He’s the type of person that when he’s really upset he just wants to be left alone. So while I offered to go to the funeral with him, he didn’t want me to. I honored that even though I would’ve liked to have been there for him. People mourn different ways.

I’ve only cried in front of him a bazillion times. But I’m a crier. 

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I have seen DH cry a couple times. Once he was having night terrors of being in the military, once when be was feeling depressed and finally broke down, once when he felt like our fertility struggles are all his fault, and he shed a tear at our wedding.

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can think of 3 times in the 8 years we’ve been together. When his step mom died of breast cancer, when i miscarried our baby, and once our whole family went to see Marley & Me and all of us were in tears by the end- even my husband and dad!

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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socalgirl1689:  I have been with my DH for a total of 11 years and I have only seen him semi cry once.  We been married for just under a year and about 2 months ago one of his friends passed away.  We attended the funeral and he had some tears but they did not roll down his cheeck.  I was suprised.  I guess the whole situation was just very sad.  I didn’t really know the guy but I cried.  What got me was when I saw his mom over his coffin.  I lost it.  The guy was a very nice person.

Oh how can I forget, the day we got engaged!  He didn’t cry but I did see his eyes watered.  I cried and I think that’s what got him!

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Post # 74
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Bumble bee

I know he has before but I’ve never seen him- he’s not a super emotional guy. The closest it gets is a few times where I’ve been really upset/crying and he feels really bad about it. 

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Oh yes.  We have been long distance for the past 3 years until we get married this summer.  Almost everytime we hug goodbye we cry.  Sometimes it’s just a few tears, sometimes it’s full on sobs. My Fiance is a total “manly man” but he shows me the most sensitive side, I love it. 

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