(Closed) Have you set a date? HAVE YOU?!?!?!

posted 10 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
2674 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We still don’t have an “official” date and we’ve been engaged for 10 and a half months. I just tell everyone “August 2013”.

Post # 4
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MsBlackberry:  YES. I was annoyed. I got engaged Oct 30, 2011 and we’re planning on sometime Oct 2013… but we can’t know until we book a venue, and finding a venue is HARD. 

That said- Congrats on picking your date! Haha, I look forward to that feeling!

Post # 5
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fiance and I didn’t set a specific date until like January and we were engaged April 2011…people asked us frequently and I was always embarrassed to have to say “not sure yet” but now we finally have one

Post # 6
1874 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Fiance had proposed to me on Sept 28, 2010. We had to put wedding plans on hold right after because we found out we were having another baby. Shortly after the baby we picked up our wedding plans. I went looking for a venue in Jan. Booked mine in Feb (they have great specials in the “off season”). So the date is set for April 13, 2013. Not the date we orignally wanted. Someone else beat us to the date. So this date was the only other date we could get married in April.

Post # 7
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MsBlackberry:  We got engaged in September of 2010. And I thought it would be nice to take our time and relax with the wedding planning details. …. Little did I know that there would be a dreaded question that would haunt me day and night.

Everyone, especially my Fiance’s family hounded us to know when our date was.  It was nothing short of harassment and people just dont seem to understand that I/we had/have a lot of other major life events going on and that we weren’t ready to start the official planning. UGH! It was horrible. We would go to parties, family reunions, holidays and just wait for someone to ask “when’s your date?” and when we explained that we were taking our time, we would get this blank look from the questioner. It was truly annoying and invasive to feel like you had to explain yourself to everyone. I think people want to be excited and want to talk about your wedding details and dont know what to say or do when you tell them that you havent set a date yet.  

It took us about a year of being engaged before we started the wedding planning, and I am sorry to say that it was not relaxing as I imagined.  Things have been much better after we set our date and got underway with the planning.  Now I am just waiting for the “when are  you having kids?”….!!!!!!!!!! People, I tell you are just going to be people….

Post # 8
23 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think the minute you get a ring on your finger people start asking 

Post # 9
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@vabride1103:  Haha this is so true. Immediately after I told anyone we got engaged people asked if we had a date yet. Really??

Post # 10
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It drove me nuts. I mean, seriously. We had been engaged for all of 24 hours before it started.

We got engaged in July, and just set the date a month ago.

Post # 11
6533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

When people asked immediately, it was annoying. But after amonth or do I didn’t blame them. We picked a date about 2 months after getting engaged.

Post # 12
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Yes- FI’s family was starting to bug me- within a week his mom, aunt, and cousin all asked when the wedding date was. Keep in mind this was February 2012, and he proposed January 2012. Yes, we made the decision in a month (wanted to have a short engagement), but I was ready to tell the next person who asked me-“I don’t know yet and if you don’t quit you’re not invited!!” I don’t how know brides-to-be who took a longer date picking the date put up with it! :)-  I know everyone gets excited for you/wants to plan, but WHY is that the first question everyone asks? (after maybe “how did he propose?”)

Post # 13
4394 posts
Honey bee

This is so going to happen to me/us. We are looking at rings now so I know it’s coming but our plan is to wait a couple of years (I need to finish school).

Post # 14
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I did get slightly annoyed with people asking me.  It took us about 9 months to set a date so we didn’t have tons of people asking us yet but one or two people asked non stop. 

Post # 15
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@thepainter:  We got engaged on the same day!Laughing


But yeah, people were asking us that day if we had a date set.  What is funny is that when we did actually set a date(like 2 weeks later) some of those that had been so curious to know what our date was, didn’t seem as interested in our news, lol.


Now that I’m planning the wedding, I’m already getting the “how soon after the wedding are you having kids?”.  Guess it never really ends does it?

Post # 16
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

oh my goodness, yes. when people ask when we’re getting married, i usually just tell them “in the future” with some cheer and they leave it alone. i have been engaged for a super long time (by most standards) and while we do plan o getting married, sometimes life gets in the way!

the date on my profile is fake, haven’t picked one yet, but you can’t post here as a bride unless you have a date. so even weddingbee has standards!

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