(Closed) Have you traveled apart from SO since you got together?

posted 6 years ago in Travel
  • poll: Have you traveled separately since you started dating your SO?
    yes, while dating : (188 votes)
    38 %
    yes, while engaged : (158 votes)
    32 %
    yes, while married : (92 votes)
    19 %
    no, but I would : (13 votes)
    3 %
    no, and I wouldn't : (8 votes)
    2 %
    yes, but only for business : (24 votes)
    5 %
    other, since I probably forgot something : (6 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    62 posts
    Worker bee

    Yes it is completely normal to travel without your significant other. I would be shocked to hear of others who think this is strange.

    If you’re mature enough to enter into marriage, you should be mature enough to be able to do things independently, including traveling.

    Post # 4
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I traveled out of the country for eight days while dating my Boyfriend or Best Friend (now FI).


    I was Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friend’s wedding. The vacation happened to fall during our two year anniversary. I missed him so much!


    Post # 5
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Laurenplusalex:  I flew home to be with my family last summer without Fiance. He was supposed to come but had to work at the last minute. He flew up a week later and went on a week long fishing trip with my Dad. By the time the fishing trip was over I had already flown home and so we met back at home. It was no big deal, but that was an exception for sure. I can’t see us ever taking vacations apart if we can help it. Except of course for fishing trips…which have now become an annual thing for Fiance and my father and brother.

    Post # 6
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I went on a major vacation while we were dating (almost engaged), some mini weekend vacations while engaged, and then travel for work (the odd week here and there) while married. 

    I don’t see myself doing a massive trip without him anymore, but that’s just because of joint finances and limited vacation time, not because it would be a personal issue.

    Post # 7
    13707 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes, I traveled apart from him while dating, engaged, and married.  I do a girls trip every year, he does a guys golf weekend.  It’s healthy to have friends and interests outside of each other!

    Post # 8
    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @Laurenplusalex:  I went to Florida for a dance competition while we were just dating and I just came home from a 4-week trip in the Philippines with my mom.

    He has travelled without me for a team salsa performance and a business conference in the past.

    On all occasions we kept in touch every day, either through text or facetime 🙂 even if it was just for a little while during the day.

    Post # 9
    2529 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have been away without my husband prior to us getting married – holidays with my family, holidays with my sister etc. I have stayed apart from him since being married too…at my parents. Next week I am going away again, seeing family, then he is going on a stag weekend. Then a month later I’m going on the hen weekend!

    I think going away without your SO is fine. After all, they probably wouldn’t want to go on a girly holiday anyway! However, now I am married I wouldn’t want to go away for too long. 

    Post # 11
    14492 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sure, both of us do all the time for work and fun. I’m married not shackled to him. I like traveling with him but being together is not a prerequisite for travel.

    Post # 12
    5659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Yes, but not long term only weekends for girl time or when he couldn’t come. He’s not my second leg for god sake lol.

    Post # 13
    255 posts
    Helper bee

    We haven’t been apart for more than one night our whole relationship. 

    Post # 15
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @Laurenplusalex:  I’ve flown out of state to visit friends a few times, and done weekend trips with girlfriends (slightly more local, but I’m still gone for the weekend). Fiance has only traveled to visit friends once, but he’s done some work traveling. This is all while we were dating (and living together). I anticipate we will still make an occasional trip like this once we’re married as well (haven’t had the opportunity yet while engaged). My BFF lives on the other side of the country, and I can’t really have quality girl time with her if Fiance is there!

    Post # 16
    8482 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Yep. Was gone 2 days over Thanksgiving and 4 days last month.

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