(Closed) Have you traveled apart from SO since you got together?

posted 6 years ago in Travel
  • poll: Have you traveled separately since you started dating your SO?
    yes, while dating : (188 votes)
    38 %
    yes, while engaged : (158 votes)
    32 %
    yes, while married : (92 votes)
    19 %
    no, but I would : (13 votes)
    3 %
    no, and I wouldn't : (8 votes)
    2 %
    yes, but only for business : (24 votes)
    5 %
    other, since I probably forgot something : (6 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 47
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Twice for business, once to my friends hometown for a long weekend with her. I’m actually away on business right now and he’s back home. It’s a little hard for me this time because he only just came home after being away for weeks for a law enforcement academy.

    Post # 48
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    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

    I go visit my mom every year for 4 weeks . I did that when he was my boyfriend and after getting engaged too. Sometimes I go visit my brother in london without him too. Every now and then I go somewhere with the girls for a weekend or so. I think its very normal and it’s nice to have a getaway with friends or so 

    Post # 49
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    517 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I went on a trip with FI’s sister for 3 nights and I cried the first night (and the second) because I missed him so much… I’m going to a hen’s party/weekend for 4 days in a couple of weeks and I am dreading it because I know I will miss him. I realise this is ridiculous and that I need to have some independence so I’m going to try my best to last the whole 4 days and resist getting him to drive 1.5hrs to pick me up early.

    Post # 50
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    771 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We travel apart quite a bit.  I have a girl’s trip to Vegas 2.5 months after our wedding and in the fall he spends many weekends away bc he has season football tickets and I am busy working that time of the year.

    It works for us. 🙂

    Post # 51
    Member
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Laurenplusalex:  When we’d been dating a couple months I had a month long trip that had been planned since before we met. He ended up coming up for the weekend in the middle of my trip, which was nice. 

    Now, I think I would go away for a couple nights without him if something came up. Like if my family was going on a trip but he couldn’t get away from work or if it was a girls’ weekend or something. But probably not more than a long weekend. I recently spent like 4 nights at my dad’s helping him get the house ready for my sister & family to move in. It sucked. I couldn’t sleep without Fiance crowding my space so I was up all night! 😛 Meanwhile, he apparently came home from the gym, ate and went right to bed every night because “there was nothing do to without you here”. LOL We’re pathetic. 

    Post # 52
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I live on a different continent than SO, so this may be a bit different.

    But I did when we were dating and lived together. And I will when we live together again and are engaged and married. Life doesn’t end because you got hitched, and sometimes life involves being away from your SO.

    Post # 53
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    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I went on a week-long cruise without Fiance and it wasn’t a problem at all (I had a friend working as a performer on the ship, so I got to go for free). She is also taking a trip to Costa Rica with her aunt, mom, and sister next year without me. I don’t think either of us has ever been sore over it.

    We both traveled a LOT while we were dating, too, though we were dating in a somewhat nontraditional fashion (we met as penpals and didn’t live in the same state/city until we were living together). She studied abroad in Asia for four month, and I spent 9 months of my life on the road for work (England, German, Canada, the US). We were hardly ever on the same continent when we first started seeing each other. 

     

    Post # 54
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    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I have no interest in traveling without my husband. If I have to for work, that’s one thing. However, I don’t want to spend money and explore a new place while I leave the most important person at home. 

    Post # 55
    Member
    854 posts
    Busy bee

    Nope, if we are going on a vacation we’d want to go together. I have traveled for work but that’s typically a couple of days max. I worked in Colorado last year and stayed for two weeks instead of one, he and our daughter ended up flying out when we realized how long Id be gone.

    I guess for us the exception would be if I was going to see my parents or sisters, he might not go then if he had to work.

    Post # 56
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    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Laurenplusalex:  I went to Vegas with a girlfriend. I don’t mind travelling without him, but it was different to not have him with me! I thought about it, and that is the only trip I’ve taken solo in NINE YEARS. (Travelling for sport non withstanding, I used to travel for competitions.)

    Also, one time I came home from Europe without him and it turned into a 3 day adventure with an unexpected visit to Germany. Does that count?

    Darling Husband is my travel buddy though! We’ve been all over the world together. 🙂 We’re thinking Vietnam for this year.

    Post # 57
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    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Fiance and I both highly value our personal space, and we’ve discussed (once we are married & living together) taking separate trips. We not only agree to it, but see it as necessary to our mental health.

    But we’ve been in an LDR for our entire relationship, so I sleep alone 95% of the year, as does he. We live separate lives. We have interests that overlap but lots that don’t. For example, he’s not going to travel to every reptile expo I attend, nor would I expect him to. And I’m not going to tag along for every nerd convention and museum he goes to.

    Even on our honeymoon, we have plans to split up and do separate shore excursions.

    We can both feel smothered easily, so it just makes sense that we’d take solo trips.

    Post # 58
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    2480 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Although we love to travel together, I’ve also taken several trips without Darling Husband and it doesn’t cause us any concern. The furthest I’ve been is the USA but I quite regularly go away for long weekend when I’m performing at festivals and stuff.

    Post # 59
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    1152 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I go from DC to NYC to visit my best friend every few months…Fiance is never invited.  I love him, and so does she, but that’s our girls’ weekend.  One day, when she get engaged or married, maybe it’ll turn into a couples trip…but no.

    I went to the Bahamas with this same best friend within the first year Fiance and I were dating, too, but he had just moved in like 2 months prior to that.

    Oh and I’ve gone back to Ohio to visit family without him a few times.

    Post # 60
    Hostess
    11165 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @Laurenplusalex:  A few times during our dating relationship I traveled to Europe for lengthy periods of time (3 weeks to 4 months). It wasn’t a big deal at all. Since we have lived together and/or been married I have taken week+ trips without him to see family and friends out of town/state. Again, it isn’t a big deal.

    Post # 61
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    521 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Do it, girl.  Traveling is the best.  Right before we got engaged (though in my mind, we were no less committed than we are now, 3 months out from the wedding), I went to the UK for work, and extended my trip for a week to travel to Prague and Budapest on my own.  Loved every minute.  Sure, I missed him, and talked to him every day, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything!  I’ve gone on multiple girls trips since we’ve been engaged.  I think it’s unhealthy if people can’t spend a weekend away from their SO!

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