(Closed) Have your friendships changed post-wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, a prior commitment is a prior commitment, so there’s not much you can do. Perhaps your friend feels like you should have kept the day of her birthday open.

Even if she didn’t do “much”, I am assuming she still paid all the costs associated with being a bridesmaid, gave up an entire day, etc, and she probably does feel bad that you are missing her birthday so soon after she did all that. She may also be stressed that now that you are married you won’t have much time for her. She is going about it the wrong way- you don’t “owe” her- but I understand her hurt feelings. Can you meet her halfway? Maybe swing by her party for a little while? Or, if you have to miss it completely, could you offer to take her out the night before or the night after?

Post # 5
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I do feel a closer bond to all my BM’s. And I do feel more obligated to celebrate their special events since they dedicated so much time, energy adn support to me on my wedding day. It wouldn’t have been the same without them there for sure, I mean I’d still be married, but there’s something really touching about having your best friends standing there supporting you.

Although I wasn’t available the night of my BM’s birthday just recently due to a work event, so I took her out that weekend. I couldn’t get out of the event unless I took the whole day off which I couldn’t do anyway b/c it was actually teh busiest day of the year for me.

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