(Closed) Have your parents met his?

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

They all met about 11 months after we began dating.  Our moms totally hit it off! lol.  My parents are coming into town, again for Thanksgiving and for the 3rd year in a row it’s going to be a combined family party! 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our parents didn’t meet until after we were engaged as well, at that point we had been together for over 4 years.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’ve been dating over a year and they haven’t met yet. It’s not like they’re far apart either; his mom lives about half an hour away and his dad maybe two hours. I think our dads will get along no problem, but moms…well, my mom is a very conservative, passive kindergarten teacher who doesn’t indulge in any vice except chocolate, while his mom is a high strung, worldly chainsmoker. Veeeeeery different personalities. I’m thinking it will either work out perfectly fine, or it’ll be a train wreck, haha.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

The FI’s parents live in the same town as us and my parents came through and dropped some furniture for our future apartment off at his parent’s house for storage.  It was short, kind of awkward, and we’ve never really talked to either set of parents about what their impressions were.  His parents have an unndying love for all technology, new TV shows, and all bandwagon teen movies (think Twilight) so I don’t foresee any in-law vacays after they received “are you crazy” looks for not having seen the latest Harry Potter movie (or any of them for that matter in my pop’s case).  I don’t even know how Harry Potter got brought up in the maybe fifteen minutes that they were together =/.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Hah! I like the mental picture you’ve created there… bodyguards… heh

Despite living less than 5m away from each other – our parents didn’t meet until after we were engaged. I was terrified. My Dad’s a teddybear but my Mom… well let’s just say we call her the “dragon lady”. She can be as sweet and polite as Emily Post herself but man she can get some zingers in there too. FI’s parents are about 20yrs younger than mine and way laid back. I’m so grateful because I hit the jackpot of IL’s – they’re so easy going.  I didn’t think they’d have anything in common but it was fine.

I guess at the end of the day all Mom’s can talk about their kids and raising children, etc.

Post # 37
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Helper bee

We were just talking about this – our parents haven’t met – but not because they don’t want to! Life is just so crazy right now that there’s no time! With over a year til our wedding, I’m not too worried about it. Though I hope they meet soon because I love his family like my own and he feels similarly toward mine!

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ours haven’t met, and probably won’t intil the rehearsal dinner…or the wedding. idk if they’ll both be at the rehersal. lol.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Nope. I haven’t even met his mom yet, although she and I talk on the phone and before she hangs up she always tells me, “I love you.” We are hopeful that she will be able to come out and visit early next year.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This really is a sticky situation… My boyfriend’s sister just got married in October and her parents did not meet the groom’s parents until the day before the wedding due to distance. They got along okay but you could kinda tell that it wasn’t really a meshing of the two families because they didn’t have time to get to know his family very well… On the other hand my parents live about 25 minutes from BF’s so we’re working on this but not pushing too hard. His parents (and whole family for that matter) are loud, opinionated and a little bit on the wild side- mine are quiet, always polite, and pastor their own church.. Talk about polar opposites. BF plays pool tuesday nights with my step-day so probably right before the engagement we’ll be inviting his parents to come along and have the 3 boys play pool together while us 3 ladies sit and chit-chat.. I just know I didn’t want to wait until closer to the wedding because I figure the longer we have the more chance we have that everyone will be a closer cohesive unit.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had both the families come to our new townhome over the summer for a cookout. Just the immediate families.  We had just gotten our new puppy so he played as a wonderful conversation starter.  It went really well.  Now our mom’s email each other back and forth about the wedding.  It is really sweet.  My advice, just do it.  Keep the location/setting light so there is no pressure.  I am very happy that they have already met as this will be one less stress come the week of the wedding.

Post # 42
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Newbee

OMG I am DREADING the day my parents meet his. My parents are very friendly and nice even to people they don’t care for. So I am not worried about my parents for the most part. His parents how ever are divorced for one thing and they both talk over each other when they get together. They are both really rude they have invited themselves out to dinner with us SEVERAL times and I have at all these times been extremely embarassed by his parents behavior to the waistress’ and during their meal. Both of his parents have been rather rude to me to the point where SO says something to them. I have simply been stun because I am not use to being treated or talked to like that. The only reason I would be worried about my parents is because my mom gets defensive about her children (my sister, brother, and I) and if they are rude to us or about us (like they have been in the past) she will speak her mind and its not pretty. My dad won’t do anything like that unless its extremely out of line but when we are done with dinner and having a private conversation at home he’ll tell “The acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree”.

After meeting his parents and sibling I am impressed that he is the way he is. How did he come out so normal?

Post # 43
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Helper bee

We had his parents come out to meet my parents a few months before the wedding to not only talk about finances, but also get to know one another.  I was scared because my parents are very traditional Asian parents and his parents were Caucasian.  On top of that, my father is not very tactful and sometimes says things that hurt other people’s feelings.  Thankfully my mom set him straight so everything was fine when they met.

Of course, I was also afraid that his mother would feel awkward since she’s not very social and gets tense very easy.  But with some food and alcohol, she was fine.

Post # 44
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We’ve been dating for over 2 years, and our parents will meet for the first time next month at boyfriend’s birthday party. Should be interesting…

Post # 45
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Both of our parents are married (his, 50 years) and (mine, 40 years), but only my mom has met his parents, they met 15 months after we started dating. (they live 75 miles apart). My Dad happened to be out of town that weekend (Father’s Day) so my dad hasn’t met his parents, honestly it could be the wedding. hmmmm, interesting. 

 

 

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ok… so I haven’t really thought into this until reading this thread… I’ve been dating my bf for over 7 years now and our parents still have not met.. is it bad to wait until the engagement party??!!  It’s just neither side has made the effort to get together, his family is so large as it is, and my family is very close within ourselves… ahhh!  I hope it won’t be awkward… when that day comes! 

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