- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
So, I haven’t even entered a store yet, and my mom has been fighting me tooth and nail on every single idea I bring up to her. It would take me too long to explain the way she is acting, so I will sum it up in one short conversation we had.
“I love this dress, but without the belt. I cannot stand belts.” – me
“Oh I like it, it doesn’t look like a belt at all!” – mom (how does a belt not look like a belt?..)
“I hate it, sorry, I just have never liked belts or embellishments around the waist, and I think that particualr belt looks really tacky.” – me
“It doesn’t look tacky, it makes her look smaller too.” – mom
“That doesn’t make me not hate it…” – me
“Also, you need to watch the length of your train. You wouldn’t want it too long on the beach.”- mom
“I am sure it would be heavier if it was longer, but no matter how short or long the train is, it’s still going to drag in the sand.”- me
“Jesus you don’t need to argue everything!”- mom
I am really really trying not to be argumentative toward her. I just know exactly what I want. I have probably 20 pictures of dresses that are acceptable to me and would love anything I can find that is similar. There has been so much more dialogue between us that has made my blood boil, from her pestering me to go to Chicago and try on dresses (I am from downstate IL in the cornfields and I DO NOT want to go to Chicago to try on dresses. Sure, it’s a cool place to hang out, but if my mom is going to drive me crazy, I would rather be somewhere I am familiar with and comfortable) to her constantly telling me “well I like that first dress you showed me better. It’s the best”. If she was paying for my dress, I would have a lot more tolerance for her opinions, but she isn’t. This is my wedding day, and I hate to sound mean, but her opinion won’t stop me from getting the dress I think looks best on me…
How do I deal with her when it’s time to actually go shopping in 3 weeks?.. I do not want to seem like a bitch in front of a whole bridal shop if she continues to act like she is acting now.