(Closed) Haven't seen friend in almost 3 years but want her to be a bridesmaid

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
46972 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

elise2015:  If I were her and we had not kept in closer touch since then, I would think it was weird. I would wonder if you had no other friends if you asked me to be a bridesmaid.

Post # 3
4815 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Two out of three of my bridesmaids I haven’t seen in 3.5 and 4 years, but they’re what I would consider lifelong friends because we can always pick up where we left off and we made such an impact on each others’ lives.  We’re best friends from a distance!  One of them lives in California, she pretty much asked me to be a bridesmaid and we talk much less than the one that lives in Florida (I live in Pennsylvania).

ETA: If you keep in contact and/or have a mutual understanding of your close yet distant friendship, I say go for it.  Some people don’t understand these types of friendships, but they mean much more to me than any friendship I have in my current location.

ETA2: I’m not expecting much from my bridesmaids.  The wedding is in Maine, so them traveling is more than enough.  I’m asking them to buy their dresses, and that’s it.  I told them they can wear their hair however they want, have nice natural-looking make-up, wear some sort of flats or sandals (no heels), and I never mentioned anything about showers or stags… since we live so far away, there’s no point.

Post # 4
3036 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I think that’d be a lot to ask of someone and she probably isn’t expecting it. It’s 1 thing to invite you to your wedding (travel costs + gift) but another to ask her to attend as a bridesmaid (travel costs to wedding, shower, bachorette… dress… hair/makeup/shoes… gift).

Post # 5
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t think you should. Just send her an invite to the wedding and hoping she will be able to come.

Post # 6
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

SeaOfLove:  Basically what she said. If you’re still in touch and you feel you want to, go for it. It’s your wedding.

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