Post # 1
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Newbee
Hello!
So almost 3 years ago I was in a study abroad program and made an amazing friend! We were so close during the trip, traveled together and even though I technically only spent 3 months with her I consider her one of my closest friends. So I was supposed to go up to visit her for New Years (I live in VA shes in Vermont) 2 years ago but plans fell through due to weather. Since then we’ve talked here and there -sporadically but we are planning a visit soon-probably January.
I want to ask her to be one of my bridemaids but I am wondering if that would be weird considering we havent actually seen eachother in almost 3 years?
Thanks for your comments!
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
elise2015: If I were her and we had not kept in closer touch since then, I would think it was weird. I would wonder if you had no other friends if you asked me to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
Two out of three of my bridesmaids I haven’t seen in 3.5 and 4 years, but they’re what I would consider lifelong friends because we can always pick up where we left off and we made such an impact on each others’ lives. We’re best friends from a distance! One of them lives in California, she pretty much asked me to be a bridesmaid and we talk much less than the one that lives in Florida (I live in Pennsylvania).
ETA: If you keep in contact and/or have a mutual understanding of your close yet distant friendship, I say go for it. Some people don’t understand these types of friendships, but they mean much more to me than any friendship I have in my current location.
ETA2: I’m not expecting much from my bridesmaids. The wedding is in Maine, so them traveling is more than enough. I’m asking them to buy their dresses, and that’s it. I told them they can wear their hair however they want, have nice natural-looking make-up, wear some sort of flats or sandals (no heels), and I never mentioned anything about showers or stags… since we live so far away, there’s no point.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I think that’d be a lot to ask of someone and she probably isn’t expecting it. It’s 1 thing to invite you to your wedding (travel costs + gift) but another to ask her to attend as a bridesmaid (travel costs to wedding, shower, bachorette… dress… hair/makeup/shoes… gift).
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I don’t think you should. Just send her an invite to the wedding and hoping she will be able to come.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
SeaOfLove: Basically what she said. If you’re still in touch and you feel you want to, go for it. It’s your wedding.
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