(Closed) Have/Would you ever date a colleague?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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Butterfly6:  lol. Think someplace with a big, complicated war. 

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

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Sugar Plum.x:  I met my husband at a job I used to have, we were in different departments. It was great to see him throught the day.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I did and now we are married!  Normally I wouldn’t consider dating a coworker because I love my job and things could get messy.  For some reason I thought he was worth the risk, something just was different.  A lot of people didn’t know we were dating for a really long time and some people don’t actually know we are married lol – I know this because someone just found out this week and we were married in October, dating since 2011 lol.  We are very professional and we work in the same department.  Love working with my husband!

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

 

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thegrandsophy:  Hmmm…Syria? Iraq? Ukraine?

Yes, no, maybe so?

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Sugar Plum.x:  I have a fun story!

Right out of nursing school I got a job at the county jail in my town. There were no rules on coworkers dating, but there was TONS of drama about it. Officers dating officers, nurses dating officers- drama trauma. SO I swore up and down I wouldnt date any of my coworkers while working there and I held to my word UNTIL 3 years in. I had an officer that I was friends with, but never hung out with. I knew he had a crush on me- he never said anything or asked me out, but he would always volunteer to work in my area or would go out of his way to come talk to me. We deveoped a friendship, that was it.

Well about 3 years into working there and a ton of failed dating relationships for me, this coworker/friend and I finally hung out and after a night of drinking and karaoke the relationship was ON. I knew right away this was different and we were totally opposite of the drama trauma people that had dated before, but just so we could keep poeple out of our business we kept it a secret at work. There were like 4 people who knew and were sworn to secrecy. Also our families were told no posting anything or pictures on social media. We worked together and acted as if nothing changed for almost 7 months before we let the cat out of the bag. It was AWESOME!

Now we are happily married, but no longer co-workers (I got a new job.) So it is doable, but my advice is to make sure its right and start as friends. You dont want to be the drama trauma couple at work! =)

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

Yep! Fiance and I met at work over 13 years ago. I had to follow him around for months to get him to date me as he didn’t think dating someone at work would be a good idea. But I knew he was the one and after I followed him around for about six months, he finally asked me out. My life has been a joy ever since. I no longer work there, I left after working there for about six years, but he still works there. I think this is pretty normal for us lawyers to meet at work, ha ha, because we are always at work! ETA: We didn’t ever work together, though, and were even on different floors. 

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Post # 37
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Helper bee

I did once. I was a supervisor and he was not. After it became serious we went to our manager and told her we were dating. The company in question doesn’t allow dating when you work at the same location. All I had to do was transfer stores. (We dated for 2.5 years. No longer together.)

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Marrying one in 5 months… It was never meant to go this way as we were both opposed to dating colleagues but sometimes you don’t get to pick who you fall for!

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

I married my colleague and we continued to work at the same place for about 4 years.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I did once. He was actually my boss so we had to keep it under wraps for obvious reasons. It was hard not to talk with him normally throughout the day-just “good morning”s and “how are you”s. That company did biweekly one on one meetings though, so twice a month we got a little alone time in a private room. We didn’t do anything TOO bad, just a couple of make out sessions haha. We were too afraid to get caught. I eventually left that place to begin working somewhere else and we had a pretty good relationship for a while after that. He didnt get too much flack from his job once it came out we were dating. We just made it seem like we got together after I left, even though most people knew that wasn’t true. 

After about a year and a half, we ended things. It was mutual, we just wanted different things out of life. I still run into him from time to time and we chat about his work and stuff. 

It was really cool getting to sneak around like that. I was very hesitant in the beginning because I was afraid that one or both of us would lose our jobs over it (it was fine to date a coworker, but not so much a boss lol). But it was actually really really exciting and fun! 

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Sugar Plum.x:  I married my ex-coworker! My DH and I worked together at Target way, way back in the day. I worked there during college and he worked there until UPS became a full time thing. We both left Target four years ago, but worked together and dated for nearly two years. At our Target, almost EVERYONE was coupled off–it was kind of crazy how many people had hooked up, were currently dating, or were exes.

I see where it can go really, really badly and I think if I were older and in a “career” instead of just a job to pay for college at twenty, I would have felt very different about it. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I met my ex-boyfriend at work – he was the polite distant guy that completely enthralled me. We got to know each other and fell for each other very suddenly – we started dating over the weekend and were nervous about what people at work would say. No one said anything really. We were a nice couple and not terrible PDA monsters or anything, haha.

We dated for 3 years while working together – which, yes, was hell sometimes. We saw each other every single day and I was rather insecure at the time of some of the other women we worked with (he was one of the few guys there) so at times working together was counter productive to our relationship. Also we’re both private people and sometimes we overdid it trying to not be too into each other at work, so one of us would feel kind of down about lack of attention, etc.

Overall I would rather not date someone I work with again but we had a good relationship and when he moved away we stayed in touch. We’re great friends and are still each other’s main support systems now 😊

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I dated one of my coworkers 5 years ago.  We were together on and off for 6 months then broke up.  We  kept it a secret at work at the time but everyone knows now.  It was sort of rough for awhile because I was still confused and into him and it made it worse to see him every day and still be tight, but I eventually got over it once I met my now DH.  We still work together and are great friends, went to each other’s weddings, etc.  My DH actually loves him lol.  

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

There’s a saying I was taught “don’t shit where you eat”. Crude, but gets the point across.

I dated a patrol cop while working for a hospital. All I can say is thank goodness I moved because when things ended it would’ve been awkward. 

My advice, no. Just no. 

Post # 45
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I met my Fiance at work 🙂 I didn’t think much of him at first, to be honest, and he knows that hahaha! But as we worked together over the years, we realised how much we had in common and started dating. We kept it a secret at work at first, which was fun! We would sneak kisses and leave eachother notes. We told everyone at work when we officially became exclusive. If you have a connection to someone, it’s worth a shot to see if things will work out ^_^

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