(Closed) Have/Would you ever date a colleague?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m marrring one!! We Met 9 years ago at work, he was the IT guy! Fast forward, we have two kids together, different job, I no longer have to work and am able to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. We are getting married June 25! Six years from out first date! I knew that day he came in to help me with my computer we would get married. I remember telling my mother about this really nice guy at work. We became friends at work and he then asked me out. Without hesitation i said yes! And now here we are! ๐Ÿ™‚ย 

Post # 47
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Sugar bee

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Butterfly6:  I’m dying to know, too!

Post # 48
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Sugar bee

My conclusion after reading these responses is that either you marry you coworker, or it is just horrible. Lol.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

Yep, I’m marrying my coworker! ๐Ÿ™‚ For what it’s worth, our company is close to 10,000 people, we work on different modules, we didn’t actually meet at work, and we never have (and probably never would) work on a project together, so he doesn’t really FEEL like my coworker (except that we do understand each other’s pain!). I literally don’t ever see him at work unless we make a point to, which is only during our all-staff meetings so we can sit together. Dating/marrying coworkers is very common at my company and practically encouraged–they even feature newlywed couples in our staff meeting slideshow ๐Ÿ™‚ If I did have to work closely with him day to day, that would be weirder, but a lot of relationships at my company start that way too…

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

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Sugar Plum.x:  I have a strict personal policy of not dating coworkers. It can undermine your identity in the workplace. You become attached to the other person professionally In the eyes of your superiors and coworkers. And that can be dangerous. I also find it more interesting to date people from other professions personally. It’s like there is something to learn. Plus not dating coworkers fosters a healthy work/life balance. Your conversations at the dinner table will not just be ‘shop talk’  I’m a flight attendant so there is also a lot of stigma attached to this. 

 

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Yes, I’m marrying my colleague in July. ๐Ÿ™‚ We work in the same team and sit five feet away from each other at work – and we wouldn’t have it any other way!

Post # 52
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Helper bee

My fiancee was my former coworker. We went on our first date a few days before his last day. We tried to make sure that he wasn’t going to be working there when we finally decided to give our relationship a shot. Our old coworkers didnt know about our relationship for a long time. There was a huge amount of chemistry between us, but we were never flirty in our work place. As cheesy as it sounds, whenever we were around each other it felt like we belonged, but neither of us knew the other felt that way too (if that make sense). I think we were a special situation. I dont think it would have worked if we were not SUPER polite and professional around each other. I know sometimes we get attracted to our coworkers and the only reason is cause its taboo and exciting, but the fantasy wears off and the aftermath (if you guys both work in the same area) is not worth it…ย 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I married a coworker, but we were dating for three years before we started working together. So we had it the other way around, and had to really sit down and have the discussion if we thought we could work together every day – with him as my boss  essentially – in such a small office. We thought we could, decided to do it, and it went fine.

I think it was easier from my end though, because I was his subordinate. He did say a couple of times that he didn’t delegate some things because he didn’t want me to have to do them – so he just did it himself instead. Obviously that was very nice of him, but not necessarily the best thing. Other than that there was no problems. 

It’s worth to mention though that we knew when we started working together that we were extremely serious and wanted to marry each other, and he proposed a month later.

Anyway, just thought I’d share the ‘other side’ of dating a coworker lol.

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Sugar Plum.x:  Yeah, I did, and we dated for 4 years. We didn’t work directly together and it wasn’t a huge deal. I did approach it cautiously and started as friends, because you don’t want to suffer negative consequences at work if things end awkwardly. I wouldn’t proceed unless you’re sure you’ll both be professional if it doesn’t work out.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee

Nope. One line I won’t cross.

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My husband used to be my boss ๐Ÿ˜€ we both quit that job a couple of months after we started dating because we realized that this dynamic would never work and we both chose the relationship over the job.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee

I also married a coworker. We were in the same dept but had different managers. We only worked together for about a month because we both ended up switching departments shortly after we started dating – completely unrelated to the relationship, I got a promotion and he got a great opportunity out of state. We didn’t tell anyone we were dating for a few months. We waited until we knew things were getting serious and by that time he had moved away so it really wasn’t a big deal. 

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Yep! In my early twenties, I worked for a huge organization with 8,000+ employees. My rule was to never date someone in the same building or department. I dated one guy about 3 months in. I dated a second guy as my two years there came to an end. We dated for years off and on before calling it a wrap.

I met DH online, but we now work in the same industry (not at all together). I love that we are doing the same thing in different places. 

Post # 60
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Busy Beekeeper

In theory no, but reaslitically if I became madly attracted to a coworker I would probably date them…the heart wants what the heart wants, lol. I met my Fiance through work although he’s not a coworker (was a potential client! whoops lol). 

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