Post # 1
We are getting married on a cruise with only a few close family members, but we want to celebrate with all of our family and friends when we get home. We live in Florida, but most of our families live in NY so we decided to have 2 AHR, one in Florida and one in NY. We want to invite everyone to both but dont know how to word it on the invitation.
I was thinking we could write something like:
request the pleasure of your company
at the celebration following the marriage of their children
Bride & Groom
Then write the dates of AHR only and include the address on a seperate sheet of paper?
and include both on the RSVP?
What do you think? Any suggestions?
Post # 3
Are you inviting the same people to both events or will you have two seperate events with seperate groups of people?
Post # 4
I agree with Misshobbit’s question – is this the same group of people being invited to both?
I think as you have it worded, I would be a bit confused and wouldn’t know for sure if you were married or if I was coming to the ceremony. I can’t think of a better way to word it right now, but it just sounds confusing to me.
And finally, honestly, why are you having two receptions? I guess it seems a bit gift grabby to me. If all of your family is in NY, why not have it there, and then have a small party with FL friends when you’re home again?
Post # 5
Thanks for the feedback
@abbie017: Thats what we are doing, both will be small literally “at home” receptions.
Since we are having 2 regardless we wanted to give everyone the option to choose which they wanted to go to. It has nothing to do with gifts and I do not expect the same people to attend both. Just wanted to put the option there for our guests.
But now that I’m thinking about it, I guess your right we don’t really need to invite everyone to both. We’ll just have to make 2 separate invitations
Post # 6
@BrideAtSea: I would send two separate sets of invitations, one to the people nearest NY and one to the people nearest FL. However, if someone declines and it seems that they would be able to make the other one, you can inform them of it on a case-by-case basis.
The way I’m doing it is that on our wedding website we said we would be having at home receptions in both my hometown and his, the details of which were to be announced later. We are just going to update the website with details and email everyone since they already received wedding invitations (we opted to invite everyone to the Destination Wedding and just go with a “whoever comes, comes” policy).
@abbie017: I don’t think that’s necessarily fair to say it’s “gift grabby”. For instance, I’m having two separate BBQs at my parents house and at my FIs parents’ house because our families are so far apart. It would be a 23 hour drive to go from his hometown to mine. If we were to just have one in one of our hometowns, we would pretty much be automatically excluding either his family or mine. The whole point of having an at home reception after a destination wedding is so that the people that couldn’t travel to the destination wedding get to come. And I don’t think it’s fair to expect someone to travel significantly for a post-wedding at home reception.